Plate invited me out, but is it worth going?

[Clockwerk50]

1 more year of this and you will start babbling incoherently like BaronOfHair

/s

 

[Gamisch]

I wasn't going to bother with this, but if you're going to go so far as to privately message me, I'll respond if only to get you to move on.

First and foremost, you and All Kindz of Gainz share pretty much the same sentiment with this. I believe you guys care so much about my financial situation in particular because you likely have achieved greater success in those areas, but lesser success when it comes to women, and maybe you feel that you should have similar success because you figured out more areas of your life than me.

Don't know, don't care, but that's my theory.

I live at home. I am very transparent about that in my posts and with the women that I sleep with. It is not ideal, and I am taking steps to change that situation.

That said, my post was regarding a girl hitting ME up and whether I should bother with it, given the fact that I live at home and so does she (technically). I am not going to be able to suddenly condense the 5-year plan you think I should have into the few hours between when I posted this and when I went out. I am not spending my weekends out at the bar for hours on end, blowing the money I've been saving up - I got invited and I asked whether I should go, given the short history I have with this girl and the fact that neither of us has a place to go, plus her being with friends.

Yet you and Baron have turned this into some sort of psychiatric dissertation based on the merit of supposed "tough love" when I am not even asking for advice about this problem. And even if I were, you've given me no reason to value your advice beyond the fact that you're a "mirror" of me - you follow this up by stating that you already had 2 children by my age as if that's a metric of success. Maybe it is to you, but certainly not to me.

I know nothing about you; how much you make, what you do, etc so why would you think I'd value your advice? Especially when I'm neither asking for it nor looking to solve that problem by asking the question in this post.

I state things like my body count, my living situation, my age, and the fact that I got BJs from this girl in her car to establish CONTEXT. If you find that to be arrogant or boastful of me, that's your problem, not mine - they are merely statements.

Hopefully this gives you the attention you've been craving from your multiple replies and direct message.

By the way, I'm 30.

I am still recovering from a lifestyle of endlessly chasing women and prioritising them over other aspects.

I don't think you are are arrogant. 2 kids is more a consequence of the lifestyle than an achievement, but simultaneously its not that strange at that age. Lotta people talk about 20y.o men like they're puppies, and a lot are, but there are PLENTY of them who are mature and move through life with a purpose. In my culture its not unheard of to have GRAND children at 40...( although my culture is trash).

I am sorry but personally I find it hard to look beyond the fact when a man doesn't has his shyte together but trying to date. It does trigger me I admit. If you were a close friend I would hear your question and start addressing the elephant in the room. Ya know like a brother. I'd say the same thing; "I keep hear you talking about women and logistics making me feel like iam 15 all over again. ". The fact both you AND her don't have a place to go should wake you up TODAY. Imo it's a redflag when a woman doesn't has a place to take me unless she has a really good reason.

About me? It's an anonymous forum. I DMed you a short apology to show its not personal or anything. You don't know anyone here. The value of advice imo depends on the thread. Lotta factors at play, in this case for example i know lots of men living such a lifestyle, basically living at home after 30 while their real crib is the car. And it never ends well with women. Never. Its part of my culture to prioritise women over personal success. Seven it my entire life.

I am a painter(construction not Picasso) and I study that trade now to specialise and start for myself in like 2 years. I by the way, slept, lived together with, and dated more than enough women to have an opinion while still learning every day. One of my biggest mistakes, again, was prioritising p00sy Over everything which ironically means you don't value p00sy.( like the nice guy who isn't nice, or the simp who women don't want keeps simping).

I don't think or feel like you had more " succes" with women at all bro..this fir example is imo a failure and NOT a successful story. You THINK you are successful with women thats the real funny thing. If you were indeed so successful you would have a woman on your side who'd understand your situation and yadiya and waits and beliefs untill you get of your predicament ( while we all know she doesn't exist). Women get flown out at 18 , you are delusional if you believe women will respect your conditions.

 

[BPH]

@Serenity or @BackInTheGame78 could one of you lock this thread? It's 2 pages too many.

I asked a question, I got an answer. I'm tired of getting notifications.

 

[Gamisch]

@Serenity or @BackInTheGame78 could one of you lock this thread? It's 2 pages too many.

I asked a question, I got an answer. I'm tired of getting notifications.

Really? Thats pathetic, and thats me being polite.

We were in the middle of a conversation bruh hahaha. If this is how you handle adversity and tough love, I can understand why you are in the predicament you're in today.

You can hit "unsubscribe from this post" and it will stop the notifications. You want the see your thread increasing in comments, don't you?

Dude wants to run around schooling people but can't take a little push back himself.

Asking the mods to close a thread because it doesn't go your way...what the hell bruh...

I hope they ignore your pathetic attemp to put your head in the sand.

 

[Gamisch]

He needs to get his logistics right. And that's (assuming he wants quality women) quite the journey. He is 30+, imo it's about time to man up and start chasing the bag and become independent.

The topic is a woman invited him out to a party with her friends, and he wants to know if he should go. She also doesn't has a place to go...

Again; if he had focused on creating a woman-friendly environment( Quagmire Family Guy style almost) ,it would be easy as 123. Now it's a difficult math problem.

 

[Clockwerk50]

 

[inquisitor]

I'll try to make this as concise as possible since this is either happening or not happening tonight...

Met this girl through Hinge, she's an au pair (lives with a host family with children).

Hung out with her twice, both times we went out for drinks at different bars and the night ended with a BJ in her car, though the second time she wanted to have sex - just not in the car, she wanted it to be in a normal room with a normal bed.

We can't go to her place because she's an au pair, and we can't go to mine since I live with my family.

For this reason I thought our next meet-up could involve getting a room somewhere and having drinks there. She wasn't too interested in this idea because although she's been very open about wanting sex, she doesn't seem to want it to be ONLY sex. I told her I'd be willing to hang out and do other things, but I put that ball in her court since she's busy working or with her host family most often.

A couple weeks go by, she posts an Instagram story with her friends out at a local bar after having not read or responded to my message asking if she was free that weekend, so I just wrote her off.

She regularly watches and likes my Instagram story since they're mostly workout clips, and asked me if I was going out tonight. She told me she was going to be out with friends for a costume party at a local bar with some of her friends and invited me to join them.

I'm wondering whether I should go to that. I may have 1 other friend join me, but otherwise I'd be by myself. Logistically, I don't see a way the night could go all that great - especially since she's going to have friends to worry about and not just me.

So yeah, what do you guys think? Please don't leave some useless reply just for the sake of leaving a reply a la @MatureDJ or @AmsterdamAssassin as I need to figure this out in the next few hours.

How'd the night go?

 

[BPH]

How'd the night go?

Plate invited me out, but is it worth going?

I keep forgetting: Our cultural capacity to comprehend irony is vanishing faster than The Karankawa from the face of Earth, after those poor souls had one too many dust-ups with The Texas Rangers And trying to be a comedic sideshow act on every post means you are going to fail miserably at times.

www.sosuave.net

Closer to the bottom, past the BS.

 

[inquisitor]

Made tentative plans to do something tonight, just us 2. Also mentioned that her birthday is coming up next week and that she would be moving out of her host family's place and getting her own in January.

I wouldn't refer to "tentative plans" as plans. It would be better as a flexible plan instead - that is, if you have anything else planned for the night aside from the main goal.

As for the birthday, it's not the best event for you to be playing her, even if you're invited. More likely it's a chance for you to show decency; otherwise, if she's not someone worthwhile long-term, go ahead and take the insane risk.

 

[BPH]

I wouldn't refer to "tentative plans" as plans. It would be better as a flexible plan instead - that is, if you have anything else planned for the night aside from the main goal.

As for the birthday, it's not the best event for you to be playing her, even if you're invited. More likely it's a chance for you to show decency; otherwise, if she's not someone worthwhile long-term, go ahead and take the insane risk.

What do you mean by "playing her"?

 

[Chow Mein]

He probably means 'manipulating her (into having sex with you)'.

I thought it was taking her to Chuck E Cheese for a round of Street Fighter.
Did I subscribe to the wrong forum, again?

 

[BaronOfHair]

I thought it was taking her to Chuck E Cheese for a round of Street Fighter

That CEC hasn't removed Street Fighter from their establishments, after a 60something year old White woman started screeching "That's problematic!!!"/"Perpetuates Toxic Masculinity" indicates that our civilization may not be doomed after all

 

[Doctor Europeo]

@Serenity or @BackInTheGame78 could one of you lock this thread? It's 2 pages too many.

I asked a question, I got an answer. I'm tired of getting notifications.

Done