Plate Drought Dilemma

[beatjunkie]

To all,

I live and work in a country that's supersmall (population less than one mill). Pickings are hard and far in between. Most foreign and goodlooking girls are in military bases (theres five military camps here; french, us, japan, germany, spain) so there are more than a couple of M16s and tanks in between me and them.

The rest, aka the locals, are either gold diggers (anyone thats been in africa knows what i'm referring to), bar waitresses, prostitutes, or strictly confined at home (strict islamic country).

so my dilemma is, go for the low hanging fruit and get bad quality or just focus on making myself better (gym, reading, health) and play the field when I travel out of here for work (have a diplomatic passport that lets me travel where and whenever i want). all my plates are now outside this country....

what would you do?

 

[beatjunkie]

Bump

some advice on this would be much appreciated

ps. add starting to feel extremely lonely to this list. this country is slowly sucking my life away. been applying for other jobs where relevant.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Work in a bar.. lol

 

[RedScorpion]

I'd go with option 2, and generally improve yourself. There are many more benefits to improving yourself than just looking more attractive. You gain self-esteem, self-respect, confidence in your strength of abilities. It's something that carries you throughout your daily life. And you're training your state of mind to be in that way. There's no down side besides putting the time and effort in. When you meet the right girl that you like - you'll be that much more ready and attractive. Do it for yourself primarily though.

Lowering yourself down for the 'low hanging fruit' can be in way more damaging than rewarding. If in your view, she is much lower than you, then it can ruin the experience. I find for myself by doing so, you don't feel better, or good about yourself. 'This is what my standards are now?'. If you do find a somewhat reasonable girl, you enjoy your time with her - go for it. Just if you feel yourself having to force it too much, then it may not be worth it.

 

[Red-Pillage]

The native women of Djibouti (which I presume is where you're stationed) are gorgeous. Too bad the ones worth anything are not easily accessible like you've mentioned.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

@Beats....

I think the answer is going to be the same from most: time to move son.

Where the f*ck are you anyway... Albania?

 

[beatjunkie]

damnnnnnn. @ red-pillage. first post and you guess where i am at spot on lol. yup thats right folks. Djibouti.

 

[Dgwizdal]

It's not your beauty its Djibouti.

Work on yourself and go after what is available to you on the side. At no time are women supposed to be the center of your life and you can only make dew with what you have to work with. Do not feel like you are settling if you have to get your rocks off to a girl that may be below your standards. If anything, it may be an opportunity to practice your game as you will be completely emotionally detached.

Either way, building yourself comes first so when you get the chance to approach that hot chick on your business trip, the entitlement you should feel will come natural.

 

[skinnyguy]

Just because you don't have plates doesn't mean you can't have fun. Go make some guy friends. My married friend has introduced me to dozens of women.