"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheGambino

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She wanted to talk. She stepped up after months of walking after me. After me hitting her up several times at 6 pm on saturday for a lay or picking my drunk head up downtown somewhere after being a ghost for a week. (pr1ck moves)

Dating for a bout 3-4 months now and she finally stepped up. I was with her and 2 friends of her and I fvkced up. I said you gotta go to the gym if you want to be with me (shes a bit fat but beautiful)

She walked away all mad (alright that was stupid)

Her friends were mad and told me you cant tell her that.

She said a 1000 things like.

Your indifferent, why? We never talk. I dont know what you want. I want you to commit to not fvcking other girls, I cant do it otherwise. You know, I have options too but I decline them for you! And I know you don't. We only hang out and laugh but you never talk with me. I have the feeling like I always have to prove myself to you and Im tired of doing that. You gotta take me as I am, Im not changing for guys anymore, my ex wanted that and I cant do that.

Say something to me. I know you can't chose a ltr so short but you gotta give me some commitment.

I told her I just want you to be the best version of yourself and excused myself for being so hard.

Then I let her talk talk talk talk, had a drink at hers and bailed the f out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGambino

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Haha Gambino I am in a similar position.

My current chick is slightly overweight- but I am significantly overweight :)

She said her mother and friends tell her she is getting fat. My initial reaction was "don't worry, I like you how you are etc"

However, I have seen pics from like a year and a half ago and.....wow. She has gone from a 8/9 to a 7. She is still hot as hell though.

So, I have explained I want our time together to be full of active activities and stressed the importance of exercise. We talked and I said one of the few things I expect of her is to not to get fat. Also joked I won't become a deadbeat if she doesn't get fat.

She took it quite well. I didn't have an issue until I saw the girl I could be fvcking in a few months if she works it. It's also a fun project for us both to get fit together, shows me leading her, caring about her wellbeing and I think it will benefit both of us.
Sounds great dude. You should work out man, I got mass, but fat too. Im working on it. Imo a DJ shouldnt be fat under the age of 40. Go work that gym dude, im heading out to the gym in about an hour. Last day off before school officialy starts, one more year for my masters degree. Living on minimum money, can't play the fool every weekend. Only gym and books for 1 year.

Go work out bro and eat clean. I eat as clean as I can all week and drink alcohol twice a week.
 

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