Plate Busted me with Another..HELP!

[slickaz]

im at work and running to a meeting..this is real quick..advice appreciated.

i have 4 plates currently that i regularly see 4 times a week (one day each, 3 days for me and the boys)

yesterday i went out with one..
day before was another.

last night i was at dinner and me and plate 1 were sitting side by side on bar stools grabbin dinner..and i was playin with her hair..and she had locked her legs around mine..which is cool..

half way through..in walks the plate from day before..
she is very surprised to see me with another beautiful woman whose legs are locked around mine..

i didnt know what to do..i played it cool..got up..walked to her and gave her a hug, said she looks gorgeous..

she was very mad..asked me whats goin on? i didnt wanna have the exclusivity talk at a restaruant, especially because plate 2 had walked in with her girlfriends..

to add to this..plate 1 is fiesty...she turns around waves to plate 2 and gives me a flying kiss then motioning me to come over with her index finger..

i told plate 2 it was good to see her again and enjoy her night..

later on i went to the bar and asked the barman to send drinks to their table and i nodded to her when she got it...she waved back like thanks..

later i saw her on facebook chat late last night after i finished up with plate 1 ((WHO SEEMED TO GET TURNED ON BY THAT EVENT FOR SOME REASON!))

plate 2 didnt say much..just hi, hope you enjoyed your evening with whoever that sl*t was...thanks for the drinks bye..

i didnt say anything back..

ive been in situations where plates meet unplanned before, but i think one thinks im exclusive and the other seems to get turned on when this happens

HELP!!!

 

[Warrior74]

Help with what exactly? that's the point of spinning plates...one blows out, replace her with another.

I say continue treating her as u usually do, don't get all scary now. If she brings up exclusivity, either go for it or don't depending on how you feel about her. If she walks she walks. You didn't lie to her, you didn't promise her anything did you?

I think you handled it pretty well for the most part.

 

[DJDamage]

There is nothing that needs to be helped here.

They are plates, so anyway eventually you are going to drop some and pick up some.

This girl got extremely jealous and if she doesn't want to see you then its her loss.

 

[DonGorgon]

SHe did not "BUST" you she simply witnessed you being the player that she loves her men to be... She know you are powerful cause you have options and it scares and excites her..


So she saw you with a female friend , let her be jelous, dont explain anything just tell her why she is special and ... She has other men she is Fing but wants to put you on the spot.. Dont let her do that.. As long as you remain in control and dont explain yourself to her she will want you even more now!!!

 

[Cashew]

Try to set up another date with the plate that is wavering. not to console or reassure her or anything like that, but to get an idea of her reaction.

It seems you handled it fine though, don't act like what happened was a big deal and continue seeing them both. If one of them has a problem with it or wants to figure out what's up, she'll bring it up.

 

[jafyk]

I have no advice for you just a remark... and they say women love it when a guy is seeing a bunch of women ha? Didn't seem like plate 2 liked it as much. Anyway, all I'm trying to point out is how you can't win with a woman. They like guys who are wanted by many women yet when they find out they are just a plate they feel hurt, lol.

 

[Desdinova]

The one mistake you made was buying the drinks for her. That made it an obvious sign that you're kissing her ass.

When plates meet, NEVER kiss either of their asses. Just divide your time between the two of them. In this case, you'd give more time to the one you were initially out with, and spend less with the one who showed up. Dividing your time between two women in the same venue will work in your favor: they will feed off of each others' jealousy.

As for drinks, food, or anything else, DO NOT give or buy either of them anything. The situation is delicate enough and you don't need to toss the balance off by either kissing ass or giving 'gifts' to show you care. Women study each other like cats when it comes to their 'property'. The other woman will be studying not only your initial date's moves and dress, but she'll be watching your actions and interpreting them.

plate 2 didnt say much..just hi, hope you enjoyed your evening with whoever that sl*t was

Tell her that was a very rude thing to say. Give no explanation about who the other woman was - it's none of her business just like the other guys she's fvcking are none of your business.

Turn the tables on her in an assertive way and you'll be able to salvage the situation.

 

[slickaz]

cheers lads..

i didnt initiate any contact with her..
today she's rung me..

her: Hey
me: what up?!
S: Where are you?
M: its 8am, im at work..as usual..
S: hope you had a good night?
M: yeh it was cool..
S: I watched Wall-E with a friend (clearly she tried to get me jealous)
M: oh i already watched that..boring..
S: What did you do?
M: just chilled out...hey dont you have work today?
S: Yeh..dont you wanna talk to me?
M: yeh, but you know you sound much nicer in person..
S: awww...compliments.
M: yeh i wish i could do that all day but i gotta get so much work done before i fly.
S: ok..well ill email you..and you better reply..call you in the PM?
M: ill talk to you later sexy..bye


since then, she's emailed me twice talking about her evening llast night and asking for when we're gonna meet up next..

i dont want any exclusivity.

she was so mad last night..but today she seems to be chasing..

plate 1 however, was very h0rny last night after this incident..but after she was being aloof..but u know me..i didnt care after tappin it..like ok..see ya!
lol..

Desdinova: Thanks for your advice bro..i shouldve beena little more clearer about the buying drinks..

plate 2 has this thing were everytime we go out, she has this urge to prove her feminine self and always buy and spend on everything..so the night we went on a date, she picked me up, drove me around didnt let me pay for dinner/desser/drinks. she has in the past sent a round of drinks from her to me and my friends.. and i thought she should know i am not a gold digger..where i make my own $, most certainly much much more than she does..it doesnt hurt my wallet to be courteous to a friend..thats what i thought...but thanks.ill take your advice for next time..

 

[Desdinova]

she was so mad last night..but today she seems to be chasing.

It's the funniest thing, isn't it? A woman you're dating will see you with another woman you're dating, and it'll make her all that much more attracted to you (it's called Social Proof in case you didn't know). Perhaps you didn't need to say a damn word about her rude comment - she probably started to worry about how badly she sabotaged the situation instead of trying to keep you attracted. Now she's trying to make it up to you

The best part is you still come out a winner. Women feed off the drama and the jealousy. It's exciting and it makes them competitive, and women can be just as competitive as men.

You're doing quite well on your own. Keep up the good work

 

[slickaz]

yeh its wierd..coz one minute they assume coz theyre dating you...you wont see anyone else..but want to be able to do her own thing/ see/hang witho ther guys (pretext: Hes just this guy/friend)

but when they see you with another girl, and worse, if the other girl is wrapped around you..they go into a fit right there..then they switch..and act indifferent..then they switch and act super nice like .to make up for the fit..

its a circle..lol..they're wierd animals..but thanks for the help..

she's been hittin me up all day about if she can come around tonight..but tonight is boys night after gym..so..no!..lol..peace!!