we all eat food
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Ok so this weekend I have nothing planned, so how do i make plans. Remeber i dont contact to a lot of kids outside of school aight.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Plans for the weekend
- Thread starter we all eat food
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
we all eat food
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Ok basically im trying as hard as i can to become more outgoing, so im starting this weekend to actually not just sit on my ass all day and go out and do stuff. But i dont know how to actually intiate stuff like this. I know it may sound a bit silly, but im being 100 % serious.
Just ask people what's up and that you want to chill. They don't have to be your ideal friends or whatever, just enough so that you get along with them. I know a lot of kids I mess around with in school, but don't hang out with outside of it. Then I have guys who are slightly annoying, but they're there for me so what can I say.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Well, don't say that. Unless people already like you and know you as a jokester they're gonna think you're weird if you say that. But right idea.
If you in fact don't get someone to hang out with from school, still don't just sit on your ass. Go out and do stuff. Go up to the mall and get some food and shop, try and meet some people. Maybe go to a local park or something and try and get a pick-up game of football or basketball going. It's more difficult to do so, but you can make friends outside of school too.
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That is retarded! Here is the kind of response your goin to get
" Get the fvck away you loser!"
ALot of people is hostile especialy if they dont know you or not comfortable around you.
Well, I would recommend starting with any friends you have. You might found out that they have stuff going on but didn't think to invite you (I notice that most people tend to 'forget' about me unless I happen to call them up and ask them what's going on).
Otherwise...you really just have to make new friends. Go to a party or two and meet some more people, become acquantices with the partygoers at your school and get their phone numbers. Friday, Saturday night give them a ring and they'll usually have something they know about.
I think the key is to make yourself more noticeable, and have people WANT you to be aroudn (then they'll seek you out). So, if you go to a party, dont' act a fool, but have fun and try to do something memorable (something funny). But there's a fine line between trying to hard, and just naturally doing something funny that people can be like "[your name] did that, you guys remember?!".
Good luck.
Otherwise...you really just have to make new friends. Go to a party or two and meet some more people, become acquantices with the partygoers at your school and get their phone numbers. Friday, Saturday night give them a ring and they'll usually have something they know about.
I think the key is to make yourself more noticeable, and have people WANT you to be aroudn (then they'll seek you out). So, if you go to a party, dont' act a fool, but have fun and try to do something memorable (something funny). But there's a fine line between trying to hard, and just naturally doing something funny that people can be like "[your name] did that, you guys remember?!".
Good luck.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.