Planning social outings with friends?

[SmoothTalker]

This has been frustrating me lately so I want to figure out if I'm doing something wrong or how to do this more effectively.

Whenever I try to organize some sort of social event, say going out for drinks with some friends or catching a movie, everyone seems to ask "Well who else is going?" and are generally not too interested unless a large number of people are going.

I can understand this as these things are obviously more fun with more people. However when everybody has that position it goes nowhere because nobody is really willing to sign up first so that I can say "well these people are already going."

How do you guys handle this?

Also, is there something unusual with me or do I just need more fun friends? It seems like I'm always restless and looking to do something fun, but everybody just always wants to 'chill', i.e. watch tv or play xbox at home. That's great for a bit, but surely a bunch of people in their early 20s aren't ready to be that boring all the time yet?

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Dude, I totally understand where your coming from, I'm basically in the same boat in this situation. I always get the "Who else is going" line and it takes everyone to say YES for us to go out and then it gets to the point where has anyone even got that much money to spend out. So then one of us might have to fork out some money for the other.

Because we dont like the events, clubs and bars in our area, we travel out to further locations, so everyones a little hesitant to go out. I'm like the only aware guy within my circle of 3 BEST FRIENDS who are terrible with approaching women ( mid game ), but dont have AA. Rather just smoke weed, drink, play xbox and talk about other guys they dont, like some prep girls.

Its defently not YOU, maybe because you're in the game, you lost some sense of what you used to do or how you used to be, so you're more eager to go out and use your knowledge on the masses of women. In my opinion, its a changing thing, sometimes you cant rely on certain people. Its nearly 2010, maybe evaluating your friendslist a bit better will not annoy you or let you down when they flake.

Maybe bringing a few girl acuaintances that you know once in a while to "chill" will wake them up, that your actually scoring babes and then they will want to find out how you know or how you got these girls. Thats what ALWAYS worked for me when my buddies p!ss me off.

EDIT: ^^ Although this might bring out the wrong AMOGing or the jealousy essense, I know it has for me. People do not want you to be the ''leader of men'' amongst your friends, they will want that position, so will find anyway to amog, ****block, be a A-hole just for you not to achieve this position. Its such a high position at that, which if done right, gets you laid or has the abundance of women.

 

[SmoothTalker]

I've noticed some of what you're talking about also, but I'm not sure we are on the same page.

I'm actually talking about specifically non-girl related situations. Granted you can meet girls in basically any setting but I really mean events that are intended to just be something fun to do with the guys that's not 'watching the game' or playing xbox.

For example a game of basketball, snowboarding, going to shoot some pool, etc.

I'm not sure bringing HBs around will do much here unless I lie and tell them they'll get laid by hot chicks if they come snowboarding haha.

 

[samezoobi]

Yeah such places are good scenarios for making a new relationship.

 

[PlaysToWin]

You could always wait until you get 5 or more "who else is going" replies and then reply to each of them saying that the other 4 have already said yes. Then when you're up to 20 people, it's not a big deal if a few maybes end up "dropping out".