Planning Dates To Avoid Lonely Weekends

[N2Deeep]

so, I have a few plates spinning right now.. kinda.. This is all new to me, the male centric attitude towards dating as opposed to being trapped in the Matrix and feeling guilty if I wasnt only pursuing the OneItis complex.

So, what's a good plan of action to take during the week to chat up these "plates" and prevent myself from being home alone on the weekends? Also, I hear so much that women don't like texting, they prefer phone calls. Personally, Im not a big phone person but I wanted to get the opinion of the community on that as well how to play it with these women so Im not alone when Friday & Saturday nights come around

 

[narcissist]

Heres my strategy for making plans on the weekend. This plan is subject to change if I plan on going on dates with girls throughout the week. So just assume that this is a strict plan for setting up dates for the weekend only. Also, I have a girlfriend now, so this is the strategy i use when Im single.

Monday & Tuesday: I never text any girls. To far from the weekend to set up plans. The longer the distance from actually setting up the date, the more likely the probability of flakiness (even if they are interested.) Also, typically Monday and Tuesday are days that I specifically set aside for myself. Gym, Homework, writing, guitar, hobbies, and other sh1t. If girls text me I never reply no matter what.

Wednesday: I start posting sh1t on my snap chat story. Like funny and cool sh1t that I am doing throughout the day to prime chicks that are on my snap chat that I wanna take out (I do this for thursday, friday, and saturday as well). But I do not message any of them for most of the day. Sometimes they will actually message me first, and comment on my snap chat story. By around 8pm I hit some of them up. And set up plans for friday.

Thursday: I always hit up girls on Thursday. But I am setting up dates for Friday and Saturday. Just in case the girls I talked to on Wednesday flake, then I have other girls to go on dates with. Or I will go on two or three dates some times, just for fun. Thursday chats are more specifically for Saturday dates though.

Friday: While I am on dates with girls I am chatting some girls to go on dates for Saturday, just in case the Saturday dates flop.

Caveats:

1. Throughout the week I will be approaching at least 5 girls a day for their numbers, this is why I have a good amount of fresh plates in my phone to chat up throughout the week

2. I NEVER EVER use texting for anything else other than setting up dates and for logistics. Fvck long cucky text convos.

3. I reserve sunday's for dates with girls I am already fvcking.

 

[Julian]

idk bro. i feel what your doing here...but this seems like too much of a "system" to follow. like, choosing what to do on what day etc.

the best advice i ever heard is if u plan to hang with a chick, make it same day plans ie hey girl what u doin tonight im feeling some wine and a movie, wanna come by" type of vibe..morr spotaneous. plus prsonally my schedule is varied..a wednesday/thursday could very well be my "weekend".

at the end of the day if a chick wants u in my mind what day of thr week it is has not mattered

 

[narcissist]

True. I am a very analytical and categorical type of person though. I need systems.

To each his own. Do whatever works for you.

 

[SmooveMooves]

so, I have a few plates spinning right now.. kinda.. This is all new to me, the male centric attitude towards dating as opposed to being trapped in the Matrix and feeling guilty if I wasnt only pursuing the OneItis complex.

So, what's a good plan of action to take during the week to chat up these "plates" and prevent myself from being home alone on the weekends? Also, I hear so much that women don't like texting, they prefer phone calls. Personally, Im not a big phone person but I wanted to get the opinion of the community on that as well how to play it with these women so Im not alone when Friday & Saturday nights come around

It's 2016. You're gonna be in for a rude awakening you start calling these chicks up. Stick to text, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. The guys who are against it a usually a bit older.

For everything else, I would look at what @narcissist posted. I wouldn't follow it to a T but you should be able to get the general gist of the "rules."

 

[N2Deeep]

narcissist!
this is great stuff.. This is exactly what I was looking... I needed a template like this that I can work with and possibly develop it into my own.
Thanks a lot!

 

[N2Deeep]

It's 2016. You're gonna be in for a rude awakening you start calling these chicks up. Stick to text, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. The guys who are against it a usually a bit older.

For everything else, I would look at what @narcissist posted. I wouldn't follow it to a T but you should be able to get the general gist of the "rules."

Thanks Smoove! I hear ya with the phone calls.. I am an "older" guy.. 44 to be exact and I prefer texting over phone calls anyway! lol.. I was just providing some feedback that I hear from some women.. like they feel as if texting is too "high school" or they dont want "text buddies".. things like that. Perhaps I'll have to find a good median on not texting too much vs actually going out

 

[N2Deeep]

idk bro. i feel what your doing here...but this seems like too much of a "system" to follow. like, choosing what to do on what day etc.

the best advice i ever heard is if u plan to hang with a chick, make it same day plans ie hey girl what u doin tonight im feeling some wine and a movie, wanna come by" type of vibe..morr spotaneous. plus prsonally my schedule is varied..a wednesday/thursday could very well be my "weekend".

at the end of the day if a chick wants u in my mind what day of thr week it is has not mattered

good points but asking a girl to come over can't be the first date right?

 

[N2Deeep]

any of you guys have good ideas on where to take girls these days? besides dinner, movies, coffee shops... what are the kids doing these days?? lol

 

[N2Deeep]

idk bro. i feel what your doing here...but this seems like too much of a "system" to follow. like, choosing what to do on what day etc.

the best advice i ever heard is if u plan to hang with a chick, make it same day plans ie hey girl what u doin tonight im feeling some wine and a movie, wanna come by" type of vibe..morr spotaneous. plus prsonally my schedule is varied..a wednesday/thursday could very well be my "weekend".

at the end of the day if a chick wants u in my mind what day of thr week it is has not mattered

thanks Julian! does the "wanna come by?" kinda vibe work as a first date though?

 

[Julian]

you dont have to invite her over right away...i would first invite her out for a drink somewhere typically. then transition to hey wanna come swim etc.

thanks Julian! does the "wanna come by?" kinda vibe work as a first date though?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Heres my strategy for making plans on the weekend. This plan is subject to change if I plan on going on dates with girls throughout the week. So just assume that this is a strict plan for setting up dates for the weekend only. Also, I have a girlfriend now, so this is the strategy i use when Im single.

Monday & Tuesday: I never text any girls. To far from the weekend to set up plans. The longer the distance from actually setting up the date, the more likely the probability of flakiness (even if they are interested.) Also, typically Monday and Tuesday are days that I specifically set aside for myself. Gym, Homework, writing, guitar, hobbies, and other sh1t. If girls text me I never reply no matter what.

Wednesday: I start posting sh1t on my snap chat story. Like funny and cool sh1t that I am doing throughout the day to prime chicks that are on my snap chat that I wanna take out (I do this for thursday, friday, and saturday as well). But I do not message any of them for most of the day. Sometimes they will actually message me first, and comment on my snap chat story. By around 8pm I hit some of them up. And set up plans for friday.

Thursday: I always hit up girls on Thursday. But I am setting up dates for Friday and Saturday. Just in case the girls I talked to on Wednesday flake, then I have other girls to go on dates with. Or I will go on two or three dates some times, just for fun. Thursday chats are more specifically for Saturday dates though.

Friday: While I am on dates with girls I am chatting some girls to go on dates for Saturday, just in case the Saturday dates flop.

Caveats:

1. Throughout the week I will be approaching at least 5 girls a day for their numbers, this is why I have a good amount of fresh plates in my phone to chat up throughout the week

2. I NEVER EVER use texting for anything else other than setting up dates and for logistics. Fvck long cucky text convos.

3. I reserve sunday's for dates with girls I am already fvcking.

do you do all this solo ?

or do you ever arrange group dates ?

 

[narcissist]

do you do all this solo ?

or do you ever arrange group dates ?

If you mean multiple girls and just me, no, I don't do that... Maybe I should give it a try. I do usually do double dates with my wing and one of his plates. But, I like one-on-one the best to be honest.