"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Plan for the year

Cloud-uk

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I want to get a bit of a discussion going of here, but I have my own little agenda :rolleyes:. Anyway, how many of you have decided what you are going to do with this year?

If not, how the hell do you expect to accomplish anything without a plan?

We're not just talking about what you are going to get upto next week, but what you are going to get done RIGHT UP TO JAN 1ST 2006.

Anyone, start, plan or no plan? Let's be honest here... I know I sure as hell don't.

...yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You got a good idea here but I feel as though new year plans are about as superficial as the whole bf/gf thing.

You should be trying to improve your life everyday....but hey if making a new plan for the new year is what gets you going then do it. Whatever it is that motovates you....

My biggest goal at the moment is getting a vehicle and a job and to also become better with numbers and letters...aka math.




Keepin it offical like a referee with a whistle -Snoop-
 

Cloud-uk

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I'm not talking about ny's resolutions, I'm talking about a plan. Your plan, over the next 365 days, is to get a job and a car.

Actually I'm sure that's a lie, I bet you want to accomplish that over the next month or two. But this is what I feel is wrong. People have no sence of time, and so they end up doing nothing. Only thinking in terms of days, weeks, not seeing the bigger scale of it all.

Anyone else?
 

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Right on. I want to get my license, a car, and go to University. Also, will work on my body to further improve it. Planning to play more sports this year. Trying out new things: always wanted to try mountain biking :)
 

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I got my license, a car, insurance. Set up a job interview. I'm not wasting any time. My goal for January is to hook up with this hb8 i've been taking a different approach to. Make that my goal for the week. After that I'm planning leaving the two bands im in and starting up a new one with people that are actually motivated. By summer I plan to play some shows which will lead to more chicks, more music more of what I enjoy. I have also made a resolution that I wont waste a single weekend sitting around doing nothing this year. So far I've stuck to it and it's been the best two weekends I've had in a while. Anyways, I'm ranting so peace.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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