Greetings, I am currently doing the Boot Camp (week one), and I am trying to think of places other than the mall to meet people. Not girls, merely lots of people to make eye contact/say hi/start convos. This means that the usual pick-up places like book stores where I cannot go around for an hour or two constantly seeing new people are a bad idea. Also, places with a high density of people would be appreciated (getting 50 people to respond is a time-consuming task).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Places to meet people? Well.... where do people go? Answer that question, and you'll answer your own.
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How young is young? If you're like 16 or so, try movie theaters, bowling alleys, local little resturant hangouts.... seriously, just watch a teen sit-com and go where they go.
Ask people you go to school with. Even better, once you do that, try and go with them. New friends, learned some hangouts, its all good.
Ask people you go to school with. Even better, once you do that, try and go with them. New friends, learned some hangouts, its all good.
Ace: Thanks for your replies, its good advice, especially for later on in the boot-camp, in fact, I'm saving it.
However, I just want places (other than the mall) where I can get to easily (and preferably freely) and will have lots of random people, young, old, whatever so that I can walk for hours doing the exercises and not see the same face twice (ok, not literally, but almost), and yet will see many faces over a short period of walking (high people density) so that I can pick my targets and get through the exercises quickly.
However, I just want places (other than the mall) where I can get to easily (and preferably freely) and will have lots of random people, young, old, whatever so that I can walk for hours doing the exercises and not see the same face twice (ok, not literally, but almost), and yet will see many faces over a short period of walking (high people density) so that I can pick my targets and get through the exercises quickly.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Are you blind? I'm giving you places. lol.
Try a popular park. People go there to jog, to chill, to feed the birds, to throw birthday parties, to swim, to play frisbee, to walk dogs, to go on picnics.... you get it. Just don't hang around at night, you'll be a stalker.
Try a popular park. People go there to jog, to chill, to feed the birds, to throw birthday parties, to swim, to play frisbee, to walk dogs, to go on picnics.... you get it. Just don't hang around at night, you'll be a stalker.
Thanks Ace, the park is perfect. Sorry if I was rude about your other suggestions, I just needed places with more people/ability to walk around. I also thought of one: museums. Between parks, museums, and malls I should be able to get through the non-girl/"quantity over quality" part of bootcamp (those fifty hi's can take awhile). However, if anyone thinks of anything else I'd be happy to add variety to the next two/three weeks. Thanks again for the help Ace.
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Thats true, often at bus stations and such, people will start convorsations FIRST just because they are bored.sheep-man said:public transport is always cool place to meet people, often they will be open to meeting you just because there bored!