Places to get out too

[Pathgen]

People who have heard this before bare with me. I just moved away from home to college and am living off campus. It has been over a month and i have no real friendships established with anyone and i am looking for ways to get out and be more social outside of the classroom.

I am in San Francisco. Im looking for an under 21 (yeah it sucks) bar or some place i could go to meet some woman or even a decent friend/wingman. As i dont have any real friends i can trust i have to do all my sarging by myself.... so that leads to another question where do you guys find sarging by yourself to be the most succesful. So far i went to the mall, but i have only seen younger than 18 year old girls hanging around there.

So any clues on what the **** i can do to get away from my computer and start getting my social life together. High school was so easy you were practically stuck with people for hours on end. Here everyone takes a class gets up and leaves. Its also probably because i am taking computer and science classes.

I decided that im going to give it a year here but if things don't work out after that im going to move back home and go to a local school.

Any advice im very bored out of my mind...

 

[Vice]

Masterbate.

Feverously.

On a serious note, you answered your own question: go out. Coffee shops, bookstores, movies, shopping malls, everywhere.

 

[Corey]

why not just go out with your casual class friends and make new ones whilst out until you find your crowd... They are bound to know more people

 

[Pathgen]

It might be just me but coffee shops, bookstores, movies, and shopping malls arent really "social first places." Sure you can meet somebody there, but its not their intent. I guess what I am mainly looking for is a club under 21 or something like that. Or direct me to a guy that can make me a fake id or something (im jk, but im sorta serious). Im just so tired of all this ****. I am currently looking into trying to get into raves, but i havent found a site listing where they are. I heard they were word of mouth also, but ill keep looking

 

[Pathgen]

i found this... i think im gonna go its tommorow night though kind of sudden but i have to get out. It looks a little meh and is called popscene which makes me not like the place, but what have i got to lose? its a dance party i have to be able to meet some girls there.

http://www.popscene-sf.com/calendar/

 

[Prodigy746]

Listen man, its very easy to make friends in college and get girls that are in your class. Here are some things i suggest you do, which if you are not anti social should be very easy to do.

1. Form a study group, people usually sit in the same seat, You should already be talking to these people a bit before class about anything (football game, new cd/movie coming out, presidential candidates etc). One week before a test start asking people if they plan on studying and if they want to form a study group. I use this to get the girls i want too because once i get some guys i ask girls that i think are attractive if they want to join our study group. Easiest way to get the numbers and once you are in study group you can show them how much fun you are. Oh also after you are done studying, say "i am hungry you guys want to go get something to eat at "name of reataurant". When you go to the restaurant just be yourself and hafe fun, if you see some girls/guys you want to be friends with you can see if they wanna go play golf, paintball, pool, bowling, etc after you guys get A's on the test.

2. You can join a ferternety or some organization. You can even start taking dance lessons , kickboxing, etc.

If you want more pointers pm me, this is already a long post

 

[FloridaLurker]

Listen man, its very easy to make friends in college and get girls that are in your class. Here are some things i suggest you do, which if you are not anti social should be very easy to do.

1. Form a study group, people usually sit in the same seat, You should already be talking to these people a bit before class about anything (football game, new cd/movie coming out, presidential candidates etc). One week before a test start asking people if they plan on studying and if they want to form a study group. I use this to get the girls i want too because once i get some guys i ask girls that i think are attractive if they want to join our study group. Easiest way to get the numbers and once you are in study group you can show them how much fun you are. Oh also after you are done studying, say "i am hungry you guys want to go get something to eat at "name of reataurant". When you go to the restaurant just be yourself and hafe fun, if you see some girls/guys you want to be friends with you can see if they wanna go play golf, paintball, pool, bowling, etc after you guys get A's on the test.

2. You can join a ferternety or some organization. You can even start taking dance lessons , kickboxing, etc.

If you want more pointers pm me, this is already a long post

VERY good advice... I have some personal experience with this and it works charms

 

[Pathgen]

Yeah thanks guys after i posted my last post here i went out to my late night astronomy class and got a girls number =D. We are going to go to a planaterium next friday for an extra credit assignment. As a bonus she seems interested in me and is around my age . So i guess i just have to give it more time ill find my place. I just wish that it would have been coming along a bit faster now.

 

[#41]

I was in a similar situation as you are now -- I left to go to law school and didn't know a single person. I was living off campus, by myself, in an apartment.

I'm trying to remember exactly how I hooked on with the group of friends I spent most of my time with while living there (and who are still good friends of mine to this day), but i honestly can't remember.

My advice to you is be social before and after classes are over, making little small talk. Mondays, Thursdays and Fridays are the best chit-chat days -- Mondays asking how people's weekends went (which can open conversation for making future plans or being included in the plans of others) and Thursday / Friday asking about people's plans for the weekend (same deal here).

Joining up with student activities can help a lot -- find something that interests you and go sign up. Again, talk with people before and after the meetings / meet ups to try and get involved. Fraternities can be a good way to do this as well, if you've got the time and money to be involved.

Also, if all else fails, sometimes getting a part-time job can help. If you live in a university / college area, there are usually places (restaurants, cafes, coffee houses) where students work. You might meet people that way as well.