"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jamescr73

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Long story short, I was with a girl for a little over 3 years. Things were going really well, and i could see us getting married someday (we never even had a fight for the first 2 years). Well, it all fell apart in the last few months of the relationship, and I broke up with her. She started getting weird, cause a lot of our friends were getting married, and she changed a lot. So, we decided to take some time off and see other people. of course once i started seeing other girls she flipped out, and wanted to start working on things. So we started "dating" again, and things started to get better. about 3 months in to this, i felt like we could get back together, and see where things went for round 2. So i asked her out again, and she was still confused and shlt, and didnt know what she wanted. So I started seeing other girls again. of course this pissed her off, really bad, but i wasnt getting anywhere with her, so thats my only other option. Finally, one weekend she decided that we needed to get together and talk through things, so i agreed. Saturday she was supposed to meet up with me so she came over and hung out for a few hours, and ended up taking a nap on my couch and we didnt talk about anything. So she said she was going to meet up with me later that night, and we could figure shlt out. Well, that didnt happen, so she called me and said that she would come over sunday night. So i messaged her at like 9:30 and got nothing. She finally messaged me at 10:30, and said she was leaving her friends house, and was on her way. That was the last time i heard from her till 9am the next morning. When she called, i told her it was over, and that i was moving on. I put a box of stuff she gave me (pictures, letters, etc) on her doorstep, and didnt look back. she was upset to an extent, but i didnt care. So come to find out the reason she didnt come over those nights was because she met a new dude! all 5'9" and 235 lbs of him. I talked to her a few times that week, and come to find out hes a lawyer, and lives 3 hours away in another state. Figure that one out. Yeah, im 6'2" and 205 lbs, and work out 5 days a week, but im no lawyer. So, I ask her "what attracts you more to him than me?", she says, "its not a physical thing, its just that were on the same page, with our careers and all". Yeah, ok. Shes a college graduate, im not.
Anyway, so that was the last time i talked to her and that was about 2 weeks ago. I have a bet going with a female friend of mine, that started on November 30th, the bet stipulates, that if i dont call her, text her, message her, or anything for 1 month, she will come crawling back. I said she wont. She might someday, i give it a year though. What do you guys think?
I still love the girl, its just too bad that she got all fu(ked up in the head all of a sudden. Things were great for years. especially the sex, well the sex was great, and when the sex went downhill, the relationship went downhill.
Oh, and btw, 1 week after she met this guy, she calls me and says she fell out of love with me, and is with him now. THEY WERE OFFICIAL AFTER 1 WEEK, and they only hang out during the weekends because of the distance thing. My friend that made the bet with me may be on to something, because hes a rebound guy, but then i think about it and the guy before me she was with for 2 years, and i came along 1 month after they broke up. We were offical after 9 days. Of course the relationship before me was pretty abusive, and she said it was mostly a physical relationship. She wasnt in love with him. So i dont know. Im dating 4 girls right now though, so i dont really care, but winning that bet should be good times. What do you guys think
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The good news is that you've pretty much done everything right. You've moved on and seen other women when you should have. You didn't fall into the AFC traps, avoided hardcore oneitis. Give yourself a round of applause.

That being said, you also gave it your best shot with this women. Sometimes no matter what you do, things don't work out the way you think they should. Chalk this up to a learning experience.

Now go out there and live your life in a way thats going to make her realize that she lost out on the best thing that ever happened to her. But do it for yourself. Enjoy your new found freedom, go out there and share your love with hundreds of women
 

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oh, and i wanted to add another part to this story that makes it even better. She is from a small town, and when she moved here she didnt have any friends. Well, I have a shlt ton of friends, so they adopted her in as a good friend, right up there with me. Anyway, shes trying to keep these "friends" and keep in contact with them. They all sided with me. They all think she is crazy (which she is). So its really funny, not only did she walk out on the best thing that ever happend to her, she also let go of about 40 friends. hahaaha. Now she gets new friends. Hang out with some stuffy people like lawyers and shlt. hahahaha. :D
 

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OMFG.... man... this is like my worst nightmare... i hope this doesnt happen to me!!!!!!!!!! Im with a girl ive been with for a year and a half... . . shes kind of messed up in the head like ur girl like she always thinks so logical about careers and where our life is going and she needs someone who is best for her and she had a few crushes when we were together and left me and came back so its like kinda risky thing....
 

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she'll realize her loss eventually.. the longer she's been without you though will determine whether she tells you or not...

if its been too long her pride wont let her...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hahaha this also happened to me!!!

But I did the wrong things because im not aware of the other party...
The other guy was alot richer than me...

All I can say is dont expect her to come back because chances are she wont...
 
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Why you young bastards fall in love with hors is beyond my understanding!!

You "Pimp the hos" NOT fall in love with them!~!!!!!! Get your SHIAT together fellas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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she'll come back. and if shes any kind of woman itll be in about 2 years, and with half of that fu(kers money. hahahahaahaa. :up:
 
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