"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pissed off...****ing mad as hell!

swifTy

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seriously, if my best friend pulled a stunt like that we wouldn't be friends no more. i mean, who pulls that kind of sh!t? certainly not a friend.

in my circle of friends if one of us likes a chick we respect that. if after he crashes and burns and one of us steps up and says, hey man cool if i have a shot? then we move up. thats how it goes and thats how it should be. respect always.

lose your friend man. hes useless. and lose that girl too. she knew what she was doin and she knew you liked her. trash.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Some of you guys are really missing the point here. He is the problem not his friend or the girl. If seek&destroy had the right mindset then this post never would have been made. If any of you think that this would make you mad at your friend if a similar situation arose, then you are placing too much importance on the girl. Are you in a LTR with her? Is she your wife? Of course not, so why should a friend have to wait for you or even ask your permission? She's not the last drum stick in the bottom of the bucket that you can "call dibs" on. She's a not a piece of property, she's a woman, and she's one out of billions. Even if she had went through with it and had sex with your friend, that's her right. If you were with another hot girl that night and had the opportunity, would you not take it, even though you've showed this girl interest? Unless a prior commitment has been made, then there is no right on your part to be upset in any form. Come on, man you've been macking on her for a week. You are stilling looking to have a woman define you, that's the real reason why this bothers you because you thought you were making progress. If you want to be a DJ, then you have to be content to be alone and not take everything so seriously. If you can't do this then you'll always be chasing after them. From what I can gather, your friend had the upper hand the whole time, so you didn't have a chance that night anyway.The best thing for you to do is forget about her. Ingrain what you learned from this in your mind and move on.
 

young_gun

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Great post Epic.

Why are you so infatuated with this girl anyway?? This girl IS a h0, I don't care if you say "she sticks to her morals".

"You can't turn a h0 into a housewife"
 

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Also she doesn't know I'm into her. Sure we flirt, but its all for fun.
 

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Great post swifty.

Said it better than I did.

Rep points coming your way.

Sure if seek&destroy has an AFC mentality that needs to be killed as quickly as possible.

And even if that mentality got him in this situation in the first place it still doesn't change the fact his friend is a liar who has no respect for him.

In a way AFC mentality worked out to S&D's benefit since now he knows this friend isn't a friend at all.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dude shes not ur wife shes not ur gf, so dont sweat it too much, and lay off the weed for ur own good.

Now, listen to your gut: are you absolutely sure u and him were/are real, true friends? If so, laugh it off, a bytch aint worth it. Your friendship is more valuable than some random hoe that you say is "very sexual". See in English language its also called "slvt" or better yet, probably a "hood rat". A hood rat does not compare to a true friend.

Maybe he was drunk, and he was in the right place at the right time.

would i be pissed if i were you? yes.
would the people who i consider pretty much brothers do something like that? I dont even imagine either one of us doin stupid shyt like this. But if one of my friends "slipped" and made this dumb mistake like ur buddy, we would have a conversation to set some boundaries, u understand?

And most of all stop being bitter about it, thats the first thing you should do.
 

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We've all been saying the same thing to the guy. Well except for the few who think his DJ friend is MEAN! Lol. IF OP wants to take his first good lesson in being a man here, he will. He will really digest what has been said.

Otherwise he will just repeat this same scenario til he gets it.
 

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So...it actually turns out he lied to me...he did make a move on her, and she shot him down...but it was beacuse she lead him on just like she did with me...oh well back to basics i guess...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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seek&destroy said:
****...

Good one Bible_Belt...you're right it isn't worth it to lose a friend over it...I don't even know if I should tell him what I feel, but I'm pretty sure he has an idea.
nah man fukk that, loyalty is everything, if you can't trust your friends then who can you trust??? F**k that dude, he is a two-faced weasel.
 

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it isnt at all about him...its all about the way she acted towards the both of us...she stringed us both along...took us for a ride and then just dumped us like we were worthless...and then she started complaining to me how i never call her to hang out...do you wonder why after all this really??? geez
 

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Thats not a friend. Friends are there when it counts, not when it costs nothing.
The blessing is that you saw it.
You know them both now, by their fruit.
If it wasn't this girl it would have been another.
If it wasn't this friend, it would have been some other guy.
 

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also....i was forgetting that "boys will be boys"...what i mean is that if someone was to throw themselves at me, if she's got at least a semi-decent body, i will fvck the living sh!t out of her!...so i guess i cannot blame him. i saw that she was leading him on, but it just happened so that i realized that she was leading me on at the same time too...and it all came to me at the wrong fvcking time.
 

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the only thing that bums me though is the fact that she agreed to go out on a date with me...and after she accepted she went and did this...it just made me re-think. she never mentioned the date (nor did i after what had happened) but she makes it seem like she wants to hang out...I could really care less about it though!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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confront this dude and dont go lookin for a fight but be ready for one. tell him straight up that u told him u were interested and he cant pull that **** on u

also, jealousy is for *****es man. im only tellin u to confront him cus that was blatant disrespect and i kno u dont want that
 

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Epic said:
Some of you guys are really missing the point here. He is the problem not his friend or the girl. If seek&destroy had the right mindset then this post never would have been made. If any of you think that this would make you mad at your friend if a similar situation arose, then you are placing too much importance on the girl. Are you in a LTR with her? Is she your wife? Of course not, so why should a friend have to wait for you or even ask your permission? She's not the last drum stick in the bottom of the bucket that you can "call dibs" on. She's a not a piece of property, she's a woman, and she's one out of billions. Even if she had went through with it and had sex with your friend, that's her right. If you were with another hot girl that night and had the opportunity, would you not take it, even though you've showed this girl interest? Unless a prior commitment has been made, then there is no right on your part to be upset in any form. Come on, man you've been macking on her for a week. You are stilling looking to have a woman define you, that's the real reason why this bothers you because you thought you were making progress. If you want to be a DJ, then you have to be content to be alone and not take everything so seriously. If you can't do this then you'll always be chasing after them. From what I can gather, your friend had the upper hand the whole time, so you didn't have a chance that night anyway.The best thing for you to do is forget about her. Ingrain what you learned from this in your mind and move on.
I couldn't have said it better myself. You're friend didn't show his true colors, he just manned up and made a move. She isn't yours. You dont own her. Therefore, its fair game to any guy. You think he's a bad friend, how bad are you of a friend by telling him you're into her and telling him indirectly that he should back off.

Im nominating this as AFC post of the year. Why are you so hung up on this still? WTF is going on. You said earlier in the post that this girl is interested in you because she keeps flirting and touching you. Who gives a ****. I flirt and touch fat chicks that will never have a chance with me.

What you should have done was close the deal early on in the saga. You should have said "what is you're phone number?" and then you would have gotten past all the flirting and all the games, and gotten down to the real nitty gritty of what was going on. Look at all the time you wasted. Fvck, the normal DJ's on this site will find a girl they like, ask for the number, and if they get shot down they will forget about her forever. That's the way its done. YOu are standing around analyzing every move she makes, when it is really all so simple.

I suggest you get back to friendly terms with your friend. He was only going for what he wanted. And next time dont get made a fool of. Learn from this mistake.
 
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