"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Pissed Girl Off... Is This Right?

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I asked a girl out I've been on a date with before to go out and get Sushi tonight. She told me that she had plans to go to an industry party but she would let me know if that fell through.

Well I didn't hear from her all day and my friends birthday is tonight and she's going to a club and invited me. So I decided to go to the birthday instead of waiting around to possibly hear from my "date".

So my "date" called to tell me that her plans fell through and that she now wanted to go to sushi. I explained everything to her and invited her to the club with me. She declined... saying that she didn't want to drive anywhere (she lives 35 min away). So I told her if she changed her mind to let me know and that I would put her on the list just in case.

She got a little attitude with me and told me to have a good time.

Did I play this right? I mean... I'm not going to sit around to be someone's backup plan on a Friday night.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Centaurion

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Yeah, you played it right.

She was just pissed because her backup plan (you) fell through. I have to say that you handled it better than I would have.
 

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She got attitude because you weren't there to be the back-up chump but at the same time was unwilling to drive anywhere to meet up with you...

Oh boy :)

Well played! You might have some trouble on your hands if this one comes through for you though :p
 

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Cool.

At first I thought to myself, "Damn I can't believe I just blew off a cute girl like that!" But that's exactly what I was supposed to do under these circumstances. If I would have said, "Oh, your free? Well then I'll drop everything and run right over!", then I would have been a total AFC chump. I'm glad I didn't take that route, even if I would have seen her tonight. I would have lost respect. I've gotta get ready for the club now. :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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