"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pimping a Club Alone...

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DoubleA

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Blusher,

You're in Amsterdam. I'm in Washington, D.C.

I'm willing to bet on any occasion that you're method of bagging birds will not work here. Unless it's strictly off the physical. Otherwise the 8 ball in your pocket won't get you far.
 

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Rollo said:
Blusher,

You're in Amsterdam. I'm in Washington, D.C.

I'm willing to bet on any occasion that you're method of bagging birds will not work here. Unless it's strictly off the physical. Otherwise the 8 ball in your pocket won't get you far.

I've never been to the US, so I'm still waiting for somebody to answer:

newbie81 said:
Give me the difference between American girls & girls from Western European cities like Brussels, Antwerp, London, Paris, Amsterdam.
 

SeldomSeen

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if there's anyone that can address the club issue it is myself since Ive been clubbing strong since 1988. I still go the the clubs at 39 years of age because I look young and can outdance 99 percent of the people at the clubs. But one thing is when I go to clubs alone that Im unfamiliar with I usually pay attention to my walk and my vibe. If I dont know anyone at the club (and assuming Im not in a dancing mood) I'll usually post up by the bar, order a beer and talk to the girls who come up to the bar. If they ask if I'm alone or why I'll usually say my friends flaked and I didnt want to go to bed just yet...Usually I'll start a conversation. One thing you dont want to do is wander around an under populated club alone looking like someone who's lost. If the club is packed even a hot chick can go alone and not stand out because there's so much going on.

Tips:
-Make friends with the wait staff, shot girl etc.
-Make good friends with atleast 1 or 2 people who frequent the place.
-Befriend a girl who has a decent head on her shoulders and she can be your hang out wing. (I did this alot)
-If you're feeling totally alienated act like you're on your cellphone (it kills the Im alone and lost look)
-get out of the snobbish mind frame that there are no intelligent women in the clubs. This will kill your game. There are flowers in every garden of weeds. Avoid the half dressed, attention getting dancing lewd with their girls, women - these are party girls who have limited attention spans.
 

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Well I club alone too and I have a really great time!
I don't usually go home with a girl but I have from time to time, (last week?).
You meet girl for sure and its very challenging.

Try to find a club where there is also room for discussion, i.e lounge, bar etc.)
Althout many women dont like to talk so much there.

I can go to classy clubs and lesser ones too depending on the type of HB's I want to meet.

Feeling relaxed with a hint of a smile will give great mileage.

Talk to anybody, get it going and you will be fine.

I find wearing too much expensive clothes makes me look ridiculous, as if I didn't have anything else to go for. So good taste without going over the top is best.

I also find that girls (even in classy clubs) really like guys that are a "bit" sloppy yet good looking. (2 days old beard, t-shirt, jeans)

That's my take!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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