When U begin your trolling for dates via net (cell phone/computer) most of you will be seeking out your selected targets first and farmost by physical attributes.
Yes there are people that lie on the net for the sole purpose of enticing you....thats the reality. The goodnews is that for the most part the majority of net daters are genuine.
Okay so lets take a look at some sticky points concerning pictures on the net.
NO PICTURE-there are some legitimate reasons why some people don't upload a picture;
1) They are famous-do not want the media to know they are dating on the net.
2) They are married-do not want their partner to know they are actively seeking.
3) Important job-company may frown upon employee’s being on certain dating sites, do not want co-workers, employer to know they are on a dating sight.
4) SHY-they may be on a controversial dating site & do not want their friends or family to know.
5) UNORGANIZED-they do not have a computer, scanner, web-cam, digital camera, cell-phone with cam or know anyone that does, they can’t afford one, have no recent, updated pictures have a crappy camera, etc.
6) INSECURE-this is where we here the cliché` “I do not photograph well”, look better in person, etc. People with low self-esteem are often too critical about how they look in pictures. They hate being photographed.
7) NOT SUPERFICIAL-they want to seek out individuals who chose them by substance, the content of their character rather then their photo.
8) HIDING SOMETHING-they may not want you to know their identity. They may be a Trans-sexual, posing as the opposite sex, pedophile, gay, secret agent, under-cover police task force, your ex, your relative, porn spammers, etc.
9) UNATTRACTIVE-sensitive about their weight, not happy with their looks, depressed or some other related phobia.
10) EXPERIMENT-these people want to create mystery, don’t want to rule themselves out by a picture so they prefer to share their photo privately. They might use character sketches or pictures extracted from the net, altered pics they photo-shopped, etc. This is used to arouse curiosity, build intrigue, anticipation, or suspense. They view the photo as a reward for good behavior or a possibility of a date by making you work for their picture. This creates a power-shift/control, establishes prizability.
11) UPTIGHT-these people are worried someone will steal their identity, or plaster their photo & destroy their reputation, etc.
12) BUSY-have not had time to upload any new pictures, new look or make-over and want to upload a recent photo.
BUDDAFACE-this is where the person only has closeup shots of their face (they are downplaying their bodies). Usually people who are not in the best of shape post facial pics only or far away pictures.
BODY PARTS-no face, just their physical attributes. Beware of these people, if they focus on only their goodies odds are they have their own agenda (spammers, scammers, married, etc)
2 GOOD 2 B TRUE-NOT REALLY SURE IF THE PICTURE IS ACTUALLY THEM; Some post fake pictures, old pictures, glamour shot air brushed photo’s, and some alter/enhance their photo’s all to make them appear more attractive. If you are unsure about their picture just ask them directly a few of the following:
-is that really you/your body
-how recent was that taken
-do you have any other photo’s
-do you still look like that
-do u have a webcam
Don’t get all hung up and pre-occupied with a persons picture. Not everyone photographs well nor do they look exactly like their picture in person. Read their physical description in their profile (curvy, a few extra pounds, average, etc). Some people look better in person while others do not. If you are just meeting someone based upon a net photo and nothing else, you might be disappointed in the long-run. All flash and no substance is truly for short-term fun only.
I can tell you that people who do post a picture get FAR more responses than people who do not.........this is PROOF that online looks do matter and the type of photo you upload can affect your hit ratio. Think of the photo as an advertisement, if it gets their attention it worked.
I wont waste any more time/space with obvious stuff (nudity, black vrs. white pictures, pictures with other females, action shots, etc) thats another whole lesson in itself.
Yes there are people that lie on the net for the sole purpose of enticing you....thats the reality. The goodnews is that for the most part the majority of net daters are genuine.
Okay so lets take a look at some sticky points concerning pictures on the net.
NO PICTURE-there are some legitimate reasons why some people don't upload a picture;
1) They are famous-do not want the media to know they are dating on the net.
2) They are married-do not want their partner to know they are actively seeking.
3) Important job-company may frown upon employee’s being on certain dating sites, do not want co-workers, employer to know they are on a dating sight.
4) SHY-they may be on a controversial dating site & do not want their friends or family to know.
5) UNORGANIZED-they do not have a computer, scanner, web-cam, digital camera, cell-phone with cam or know anyone that does, they can’t afford one, have no recent, updated pictures have a crappy camera, etc.
6) INSECURE-this is where we here the cliché` “I do not photograph well”, look better in person, etc. People with low self-esteem are often too critical about how they look in pictures. They hate being photographed.
7) NOT SUPERFICIAL-they want to seek out individuals who chose them by substance, the content of their character rather then their photo.
8) HIDING SOMETHING-they may not want you to know their identity. They may be a Trans-sexual, posing as the opposite sex, pedophile, gay, secret agent, under-cover police task force, your ex, your relative, porn spammers, etc.
9) UNATTRACTIVE-sensitive about their weight, not happy with their looks, depressed or some other related phobia.
10) EXPERIMENT-these people want to create mystery, don’t want to rule themselves out by a picture so they prefer to share their photo privately. They might use character sketches or pictures extracted from the net, altered pics they photo-shopped, etc. This is used to arouse curiosity, build intrigue, anticipation, or suspense. They view the photo as a reward for good behavior or a possibility of a date by making you work for their picture. This creates a power-shift/control, establishes prizability.
11) UPTIGHT-these people are worried someone will steal their identity, or plaster their photo & destroy their reputation, etc.
12) BUSY-have not had time to upload any new pictures, new look or make-over and want to upload a recent photo.
BUDDAFACE-this is where the person only has closeup shots of their face (they are downplaying their bodies). Usually people who are not in the best of shape post facial pics only or far away pictures.
BODY PARTS-no face, just their physical attributes. Beware of these people, if they focus on only their goodies odds are they have their own agenda (spammers, scammers, married, etc)
2 GOOD 2 B TRUE-NOT REALLY SURE IF THE PICTURE IS ACTUALLY THEM; Some post fake pictures, old pictures, glamour shot air brushed photo’s, and some alter/enhance their photo’s all to make them appear more attractive. If you are unsure about their picture just ask them directly a few of the following:
-is that really you/your body
-how recent was that taken
-do you have any other photo’s
-do you still look like that
-do u have a webcam
Don’t get all hung up and pre-occupied with a persons picture. Not everyone photographs well nor do they look exactly like their picture in person. Read their physical description in their profile (curvy, a few extra pounds, average, etc). Some people look better in person while others do not. If you are just meeting someone based upon a net photo and nothing else, you might be disappointed in the long-run. All flash and no substance is truly for short-term fun only.
I can tell you that people who do post a picture get FAR more responses than people who do not.........this is PROOF that online looks do matter and the type of photo you upload can affect your hit ratio. Think of the photo as an advertisement, if it gets their attention it worked.
I wont waste any more time/space with obvious stuff (nudity, black vrs. white pictures, pictures with other females, action shots, etc) thats another whole lesson in itself.