"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pics included, what do I need to do?

movistar

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I started working out again about two months ago and from these photos it seems like I've been wasting my time. What type of program would you recommend for me? I had my body fat measured and it came in at 23% so I'm pretty much a lard a$$ right now.
What type of workout would be good for me?
Any diet recommendations to start dropping the fat?
I think 12-14% might be a good goal.
Funny, I would take of my shirt in front of my ex and prance around like I was the shyt and say "I'm hot" she would just smile. Until I took these pictures I had no idea I was fat. She was nice not to burst my bubble..

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The_flying_dutchman

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Hey bro. In my opinion, I think you should focus on building/widening your delts and slimming down your midsection. Widening the delts and slimming down the midsection gives you that lean look that chicks dig.

other than that I think you should slim down a bit. Best of luck on your goals.
 

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You're not exactly that fat, personally id just bulk up & get stronger over the winter & start dropping off excess BF towards early march.
 

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you don't look that bad dude. just get into the habit of lifting a few times a week and maybe doing some sprints and interval training 2 or 3 times a week.

stop eating sugar and refined carbs(white bread, white flour, potatoe chips, etc).

do this and you'll look fantastic in less than 6 months.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AlexTheGreat

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you should work your legs hard. do deadlifts and squats.

Reason is, you already have a large strong back, so working out the hamstrings/quads will widen your middle section and make you look more balanced. :)
 

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You don't look bad at all, especially for someone who hasn't been working out very long at all. You're not exactly fat, you've got some decent mass on you, you're far from pale, and have no unsightly body hair. If this is your starting point, you're lucky dude.
 

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If I were you, Id be doing some serious cardio.

Like 4 days a week circuit training cardio with situps
2 Days a Week heavy ass lifting, like burning out muscle groups, one day legs, one day upper body

and diet is more important that anything else

like you could work out every day but if your diet sucks your body sucks.

some recomendations for diet
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well, ive have achieved my results through fruit and vegetables primarly

i barely eat carbs anymore, sometimes i have pretzels, nuts, and power bars

protein supplements, whey protein on lift days.

I usually have a fat breakfeast, like anything i want, but i stay away from carbs

healthy cereal, eggs, fruit, water,

then a fat ass salad for dinner with tons of vegetables, onions, green peppers, all kinds of ****

water all day
fruit pretty much whenever


NO food past 8
 

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Cutting down sucks, because you can't eat what you want when you want and you gotta do cardio!

Given this...its the easiest way to a more aesthetically pleasing physique in my opinion.

So high protein, diet, 1-1.5 g per lb of bodyweight divided into 5-6 meals. Low carbs, and try and stick to lower GI carbs like whole grain bread/brown rice, etc. Simple sugars from fruit, etc in the morning and post WO.

Cardio: mix it up w/ interval and "regular".
I do weights and cardio on alternating days.

Supplements: a good multi, EFAs and protein.

Most important thing BY FAR: your diet!

Good luck!
 

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Work out harder
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ditto to the above posters. Take the junk off that treadmill in the background and put in some serious time. i would hit it the first thing in the morning, before eating breakfast.
 

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Thanks for all the tips! As for the treadmill in the back, I don't know what it is, but before I bought it I imagined all the miles I would do on it. It's three year old now with a total of about 20 miles on it.
I will increase my cardio to 4 days a week, no eating after 7, and making smarter food choices. I will post some new pics a month from now.
 

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wolf116 said:

do this man please:) make yourself a journal, follow it through for the full time, we will help you, would be great for this forum since i don't think anyone from this forum has followed that post all the way through and posted a journal about it (sadb came close), then your journal could be an example and people will have more faith in my where to start post.
 

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EFFORT said:
do this man please:) make yourself a journal, follow it through for the full time, we will help you, would be great for this forum since i don't think anyone from this forum has followed that post all the way through and posted a journal about it (sadb came close), then your journal could be an example and people will have more faith in my where to start post.
I would like to do the journal.
What should I post? diet, workout what else?
Also, I checked out that workout, and it doesnt seem like very much. Do you think thats enough to make real progress?
I wouldn't say I'm a total beginner, I just haven't worked out in a year or so.
And what about cardio?
 

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movistar said:
I would like to do the journal.
What should I post? diet, workout what else?
Also, I checked out that workout, and it doesnt seem like very much. Do you think thats enough to make real progress?
I wouldn't say I'm a total beginner, I just haven't worked out in a year or so.
And what about cardio?
Trust me it is heaps!!! When you do your max 2 x 5 deadlifts you will know it is enough!

It's a fun program to, I'm on it.

Check out my journal. I started out well but I'm not healthy ATM. Include diet, weights and cardio.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Maybe I should mention I'm 36 years old and going really heavy might lead to injuries for me, but that's just a guess. I can try it tomorrow and see how I feel.
 

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OK, the quickest way to learn to lift properly with safe form is to go to a powerlifting gym. They will teach you everything. Give it a try, it's a great atmosphere to train in.
 

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movistar said:
Maybe I should mention I'm 36 years old and going really heavy might lead to injuries for me, but that's just a guess. I can try it tomorrow and see how I feel.
You might want to keep the rep range a bit higher on the accessory exercises, but not by much. The main compounds can still be done in the 5-6 range.
 

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My question is if you do cardio late at night(i have a weird schedule) like 9 pm and do 40 minutes, but then going to bed after what's the best type of snack to eat? should you even eat or just starve and go to bed?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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