"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Picnic or no picnic

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Well I am going with the girl I talked about earlier to horse racing on saturday - I was just wondering if it would be AFC to bring a picnic? Its the first proper date but we have already kissed. I like the idea but think it might look a bit too eager to please.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Its OK but make it different. No gay looking picnic basket, flowers, etc. Just food and drink. Do not forget the alcoholic drinks either! Try to make it look like a manly picnic, whatever that is, and forget a thing or two. After all men cannot think of everything! No wine carafes, candy, tablecloth, etc. Just a military style feeding. This should be OK.

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Kind of a bump.

Anyone have any good picnic tips/ideas? I was thinking of having a picnic but I'm not sure how to "set one up".

I think the whole tablecloth/basket idea is kinda gay, but I would feel like jackass brining a Publix bag with pre-made food in it.

How are cookouts? Anyone have any picnic/cookout tips for someone who has never been on a picnic before? (sad I know)

*brining topics back from the dead after a long search*
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Let's see... sandwiches, snacks, drinks. Carry them all in a small ice chest - igloo makes some. Find a good spot, and start eating. If you want to bring a blanket, go for it - or you could tell her to bring one and you'll have the food. While I can't say I've had a lot of picnics before, it's nothing that is out of the ordinary.
 

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Sounds good. I was thinking of a small cookout but she absolutely hates/loathes cooking so I may alt for the cooler idea.

I just didnt want to seem like a tool showing up with all of this crap, wanted it to be more casual =/

But sharing the duties is a good idea.

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May as well bring a bag of cheap bread for the ducks if you plan on being around a lake. I went on a date with an ex once and we fed them - then we went to wal-mart, bought a net, and caught one of the mamma duck's babies... we named him Aflack, and I let her keep him. While I don't recommend stealing a baby duck from the pond, it is spring and there are some ducklings running around...
 

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If you own a truck, trow a BBQ on and a cooler :D bag of buns, bag of sausages....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Where are you going? To the races, a park, a cinema?

Try to put the question in some kind of context!

Sounds like a good idea though, I'm surprised at the enthusiasm of the Americans here, they're not so much of a picnic-nation as we are.
 

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I think a local park is what i'm shooting at. It's small, nice, and has a nice lake :)

To DrSoSuave, sorry, I think Devil_In_Disguise helped with why I posted a question. We dont picnic, picnics have been dead since the 70s. So for those of us that didnt grow up in the 70s, we dont know the first thing about camping/picnics. Maybe it's me and my friends, I just wasnt raised that way.

Call me a AFC, I'll even call myself one. I'd rather be labeled as something I could care less about than to blow it with a great girl I've been working hard on.
 
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