Pickup has taken over my life

[evansblue]

I never thought I would get so good at it that I'd be completely desensitized and consumed with the impulsion of hustling. It doesn't matter if I see a cute girl in the grocery store, mall, bar, etc. I go up to her, strike up a conversation and work my game. For some reason or another it's not something I can "turn off". What started off as wanting to innocently improve my skills, has turned into a free-for-all that never seems to subside. 10 girls turned into 20, and then 30, and now 40.

I wouldn't be opposed to a long-term fully committed relationship with a woman. The problem is, I don't think unconditional love is an emotion I have. The novelty wears off. Temporary gratification to me is more fulfilling and takes priority. It's not the destination, it's the voyage.

I might be heavily into one girl one day, then tomorrow rolls around and I'm working on another "side project". If the girl I'm working on puts up a shield or her interest level seems to wane, I'll see it as a challenge and do everything in my power to win her affection. Once I get it, the mission has been accomplished. It's very surface level and most times the girl I'm with sees a facade, and not my actual personality. This cycle just repeats itself with a never-ending amount of girls.

A lot of my friends are in relationships, or are married and seem very content with monogamy.

I feel different than everyone else.

 

[Scars]

How old are you?

 

[evansblue]

24.

 

[Johnny_Kage]

Yeah that happens. I'm 24 too. I used to feel that way when I was in college and didn't have much to do besides game (and study occasionally). That starts to change when you do other things: start a career, develop hobbies, work towards other goals in your life.

For me, I started getting bored with doing the same old thing (gaming) after a few years.

Don't get me wrong, the inkling is still there and the skills are still retained. They just take a backseat to other aspects of life.

 

[Scars]

You have the empathic-disconnect that I'm sure a lot of guys here wish they had. I'd say use it to your full advantage. You're 24, there's no need to even THINK about settling down right now. This is your PRIME. You are immune to rejection, and other than thinking you're "different" you seem to be completely ruled by logic rather than emotions. Your biggest worry right now should be catching an STD. Just don't let woman/pickup control your life to the point where it's all you ever think about. It's great that you approach any girl when the opportunity arises, but still make time for the little things in life. This should cure your problem right here. You aren't different. This is how I, and a lot of other members here think. The pressure of monogamy is generally just people who don't know any better. In all honesty, they are probably miserable at the fact that they're tied down and you just smack cheeks like a mad man. Remember, misery loves company. You're doing fine man. Don't let society feed you it's garbage. Do what makes you happy, and if it's temporary gratification you want then go for it.

-Scars