"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Picking up the Bartender (with a twist)

DJAntonius

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Hey guys, I could use some help on this one. I went into a restaurant last week and realized that the I knew the hot bartender from high school 10 years ago (I have not seen her since). She actually recognized me, came up and asked if my name was so and so, and we started talking for a little while. During our conversations, she asked me if I was married, she reciprocated a lot of my questions, and seemed to show some interest. Granted she gets paid to do this. She also dramatically comped by bar tab, and told me not to be a stranger when I left. She also mentioned she had been single for a couple years as one of the things we talked about was whether or not she still talks to the guy she dated for years in high school.

I was thinking about going in there again tonight, which would be 4 days later. How would you guys approach this? I'm still trying to learn. Thanks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dhoulmagus

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Some bartender was flirting with me last night. I noticed she wasn't doing the same to other guys, but I still tipped her standard lol.
 

The_411

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Yes bartenders are paid to flirt with the customers but asking if you are married and mentioning that's she's single are statements of interest.

a bit of red flag that she's been single for a few years. and certainly something you want to find out more about.
 

thunder_god

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I would have asked her out that day when she mentioned she was single and asking about your relationships, but since you ****ed up, I would go back there in a few days and try to ask her out. If you get anything but a yes then she's not interested so don't waste anymore time on her.
 
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