FlexpertHamilton
Master Don Juan
So I have general story I'd like to share that has some insights as well as questions.
A few weeks ago I went to a local coffee shop and I met this cute barista who works there. The interaction was quite brief but we chatted a bit and I could tell she interested if not intruiged.
I went there again tonight when it was much busier, and noticed there were ONLY men inside, many of which were sitting at the bar stools chatting with her in a rotation. I very quickly got the impression she was friendly with most of the guys there, she had a very laid back vibe so I'm sure I wasn't the only guy who thought could make something happen with her.
After a few of the guys left I moved to the bar area to finish my drink and chat with her a bit more. Definitely noticed more of the same IOIs as the first time but it didn't take long before another dude from earlier started talking to her. As soon as I finished my drink I set it on the counter and left without saying anything (mainly b/c the guy was running his mouth nonstop and there wasn't a window to say much else). As I was leaving she said "Bye FlexpertHamilton!" which I returned in a friendly tone. I wasn't butthurt or anything but I had been going for a run and didn't bring anything to do, so I had no interest in sticking around.
I found the whole experience rather interesting though. I know a lot of guys talk about how they can't tell if a girl is flirting with them or "friendly" like that to everyone, especially when talking to any female employee that accepts tips. However, if there's one thing I'm good at its telling the difference between genuine interest and "friendliness" for lack of a better term. She was actually one of the first girls in a looong time to make me feel something. Had a certain aura about her, can't really explain it. And very attractive.
Anyway...what are your experiences with situations like this? Do you find it best to play it slow? Do you sit back and let her chase and trust yourself to stand out from the typical thirsty guys that these types of women are used to? I have always found it a bit peculiar to pickup girls at their job because they have to talk to you and can't escape, so it feels really.... cheap, for a lack of a better word. It seems to me like the best approach is a slow burn of building intrigue and not being so thirsty, letting them chase you.
A few weeks ago I went to a local coffee shop and I met this cute barista who works there. The interaction was quite brief but we chatted a bit and I could tell she interested if not intruiged.
I went there again tonight when it was much busier, and noticed there were ONLY men inside, many of which were sitting at the bar stools chatting with her in a rotation. I very quickly got the impression she was friendly with most of the guys there, she had a very laid back vibe so I'm sure I wasn't the only guy who thought could make something happen with her.
After a few of the guys left I moved to the bar area to finish my drink and chat with her a bit more. Definitely noticed more of the same IOIs as the first time but it didn't take long before another dude from earlier started talking to her. As soon as I finished my drink I set it on the counter and left without saying anything (mainly b/c the guy was running his mouth nonstop and there wasn't a window to say much else). As I was leaving she said "Bye FlexpertHamilton!" which I returned in a friendly tone. I wasn't butthurt or anything but I had been going for a run and didn't bring anything to do, so I had no interest in sticking around.
I found the whole experience rather interesting though. I know a lot of guys talk about how they can't tell if a girl is flirting with them or "friendly" like that to everyone, especially when talking to any female employee that accepts tips. However, if there's one thing I'm good at its telling the difference between genuine interest and "friendliness" for lack of a better term. She was actually one of the first girls in a looong time to make me feel something. Had a certain aura about her, can't really explain it. And very attractive.
Anyway...what are your experiences with situations like this? Do you find it best to play it slow? Do you sit back and let her chase and trust yourself to stand out from the typical thirsty guys that these types of women are used to? I have always found it a bit peculiar to pickup girls at their job because they have to talk to you and can't escape, so it feels really.... cheap, for a lack of a better word. It seems to me like the best approach is a slow burn of building intrigue and not being so thirsty, letting them chase you.
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