"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Picking up a waitress

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How's it going fellow Don Juans. I just want to begin by saying that this site is awesome and has been a good mentor for me over the years.

I'm posting because I've been courting a waitress for the past few months and needed some advise on how to go about picking her up. I'm a student who comes and goes to this restaurant pretty often and she's usually there. When I first began going she served me and I was doing my own thing; I noticed that she wanted some attention. I started going there more often and I continued to notice she was down. Anyways, its at the point where I have to do something about it. She's really hot, I've befriended most of the staff and its just about me asking her out. Just wondering if anyone could offer me some tips on picking up waitresses.

Wish I had a pic to show you guys because god damn. Gotta have those legs wrapped around me lol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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perseverance

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Waitresses, flirt, go out of their way to please you, not because they're interested in you, they're interested in your money and the prospect of picking up tips.

Now, I am not saying this girl isn't interested in you, but from what I know about waitresses, they're just in the waiting tables game to get money and perhaps some extra money in the way of tips, not to pick up men.

Also, if she hates her job and is fed up of working there, how are you going to change that? It sounds like you want to be this girls 'Knight in shining armour', but why? If you are interested in her, then ask her out.
 

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Its quite difficult to pickup restaurant staff. Saying that, its not impossible I got the number of a bartender at my friend's club.

Only way to know is to ask and be prepared for an awkward response.
 

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go when it's the least busiest if at all possible. isolate her so it's just you and her around. you already have rapport with her. so flirt a little then ask her out.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Like anything you take a fancy to, what you need is information.

I had never had a hard time picking up waitresses, for the simple reason that if you have money waitresses are interested in people that have money. Waitresses are working as waitresses simply because they need the money, otherwise they would be doing something else.

Now, what do you know about the chick?

1. You know she needs cash because she works as a waitress.

Does she live with her parents?

Is she going to school? If she does. What kind of school and what for?

What are her priorities, aspirations?

What kind of people does she hang out with?

Answers to question like that will tell you how to make her yours quickly.
 

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"ask her out" means to go steady (be a couple)

don't ask her if she wants to "go out" with you

plan a date. a place and a time. invite her to join you.
 
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Aaron B said:
"ask her out" means to go steady (be a couple)

don't ask her if she wants to "go out" with you

plan a date. a place and a time. invite her to join you.
It must be a cultural thing, because from my neck of the woods, it means "do you want to go sometime?" and who asks someone if they want to be their girlfriend?

My relationships have sorta just happened over a period of time usually a few months down the line from seeing each other.

So when I say "ask her out", I mean ask her out on a date.
 

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Judge nismo knows that a waitress is more interested in your wallet than you unless you're very attractive. Proven fact. :yes:

She's attention wh0ring for some extra money. And waitresses give false hope of you getting her to spread. It's already bad enough that you have her on a pedestal. If you destroy the pedestal, you might be able to destroy her vaginal walls! :rockon:

And don't be a Captain Save A Ho (White Knight). A woman's idea of a white knight is her getting f**ked hard and blasted with semen fluid at dark! :cool:

Alas, make a damn move. All she can do is say no. And take anything other than a yes as a no. Which a yes in this case with her actually following through with it is a snowball's chance in hell. Read my sig and apply it. That's my ruling.

Case closed.
 

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Picking up a waitress isn't impossible but it is a long shot: it can be very difficult to tell how much of the flirting is just for tips plus they're going to be hit on by even more men than women in less public positions so you're going to have an extra hard time standing out.

That aside, befriending the staff and being a regular do put you in a better position. Just take the shot already.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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waitresses are the worst value in all of the whole gaming world.


1. usually waitresses are waitresses because they can't do very much else. They usually don't have very much to offer.l most barley are living pay check to pay check

2. Dispite fact 1, because guys like you hit on waitresses quite often, they have an inflated sense of self worth. At least strippers will rub their titties in your face lol, a cute // good looking waitress gets hit on just as much and in some cases probably more than your avg stripper does, you think you are being slick by trying to pick up a waitress. I once was fvcking a married bartender and she came at my house and was emptying out her cash thingy and pulled out a bunch of pieces of paper, like 3 pieces of paper. i was like what's that? she said "phone numbers, i get them almost everyday"

this is a married woman who honestly wasn't even THAT hot, cute, had a lot of spunk to her but not hot by any stretch of the imagination and she is turning away guys well above her pay grade like she's hot ****.



I haven't even attempted to date or talk to a waitress since i had my thing with that girl. she opened my eyes to just how low value waitresses are compared to the effort it takes to get one.

Waitresses and strippers just aren't worth it. Their sense of self worth is out of wack with what they offer.

I would probbaly toss in "girl at the gym front desk" to that group as well lol
 

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backbreaker said:
waitresses are the worst value in all of the whole gaming world.


1. usually waitresses are waitresses because they can't do very much else. They usually don't have very much to offer.l most barley are living pay check to pay check

2. Dispite fact 1, because guys like you hit on waitresses quite often, they have an inflated sense of self worth. At least strippers will rub their titties in your face lol, a cute // good looking waitress gets hit on just as much and in some cases probably more than your avg stripper does, you think you are being slick by trying to pick up a waitress. I once was fvcking a married bartender and she came at my house and was emptying out her cash thingy and pulled out a bunch of pieces of paper, like 3 pieces of paper. i was like what's that? she said "phone numbers, i get them almost everyday"

this is a married woman who honestly wasn't even THAT hot, cute, had a lot of spunk to her but not hot by any stretch of the imagination and she is turning away guys well above her pay grade like she's hot ****.



I haven't even attempted to date or talk to a waitress since i had my thing with that girl. she opened my eyes to just how low value waitresses are compared to the effort it takes to get one.

Waitresses and strippers just aren't worth it. Their sense of self worth is out of wack with what they offer.

I would probbaly toss in "girl at the gym front desk" to that group as well lol

truer words have never been spoken.
 

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Get friendly, ask for her name, build a rapport, and get her number. It's not rocket science lol...
 

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perseverance said:
It must be a cultural thing, because from my neck of the woods, it means "do you want to go sometime?" and who asks someone if they want to be their girlfriend?

My relationships have sorta just happened over a period of time usually a few months down the line from seeing each other.

So when I say "ask her out", I mean ask her out on a date.
What I'm getting at is don't use the term "go out" when you invite her on the date
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I can't remember the last time I picked up a waitress. But I've got 3 strippers phone numbers in the last 3 months and two led to dates and one to an amazing relationship. I'm amazed how many of them are genuinely available. Of course, my new job pays me enough to afford to throw hundreds around. Funny how that works.
 

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But if you are going to do it, you must get their number the first or second time. There must be a purpose for every visit. If you've been going there months with no number, the opportunity was probably never there, and if it was, it has expired.

Remember, if they don't like you enough to openly admit it in front of everyone in the room, they like someone else better. When you become a successful seducer you will find all of your relationships form from "love at first sight" chemistry. They will say things like "you could have any girl". It's not true, but if they don't think that, they don't like you enough.

There was one time I picked up a waitress. There was chemistry right away but she was too young. I went to her restaurant once a week for 6 months before our first date. I learned that seeing a girl once a week like clockwork creates an amazing romance if there is mutual attraction.
 
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