Picking Up A Girl in Cafeteria (College)

[foomee]

So how could I go about getting a girls number in my school's cafeteria.
Most decent girls sit in groups. And occasionally a few sit alone, but not often.
What would be some good methods?

 

[Sp1kez]

Just go up to them and if there is a spare seat go ahead and take it, then say "How nice of you guys to join ME for lunch today"

 

[oteao99]

start a conversation with them, they will love it!! THen move on from there if you think you like her.

 

[So pimp its scary]

My technique in college was : "Do you mind if I join you guys, I hate to site alone.'

 

[Kwello]

Just go up to them and if there is a spare seat go ahead and take it, then say "How nice of you guys to join ME for lunch today"

That's a ****ing great line. I'm stealing that.

"Do you mind if I join you guys, I hate to site alone.'

That comes off clingy and puts you totally into negative social proof. Don't ever open like that again.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

"Mind if i join you guys?" or "Room for one more?"
I think are also good ones.

The natural reaction is that they'll look at each other before saying "sure"
U won't get rejected for sitting down with them, trust me on that one.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

"Mind if i join you guys?" or "Room for one more?"
I think are also good ones.

The natural reaction is that they'll look at each other before saying "sure"
U won't get rejected for sitting down with them, trust me on that one.

Yeah I gotta agree with this one. This is usually how it'll work.

I believe asking a girl that is sitting alone is much easier, as it's 1-on-1. If you go in alone against a group, you can sit with them, but remember they out-number you by a bit and you'll be on the spot.

 

[Kwello]

Well either on the spot or out of the loop.

 

[foomee]

I could focus on one girl, but any ideas on how to draw her away from her group?
Maybe... "hey, I'm kinda thirsty, wanna go up with me and grab a drink?"

 

[wheelin&dealin]

If she's in a group of friends and you want to talk to her 1 on 1, here's what you do...

Go up behind her and grab her around the waist with one hand. Put the other hand over her mouth(so she can't scream). Lift her out of her seat and run with her to a secluded area.

 

[Ic3man]

Be sure to throw in a time constraint if the set looks like it might be tough. In most college situations chicks are really friendly, but if they seem more high status you might want to say something like:
"I can only stay for a moment..." etc.

Generally in sets like that the first thing the chick thinks when you walk in is when your gonna leave, so you gotta address that before it comes up.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

If the attraction isn't fully there...yea..
but if she's feeling you...she'll want to talk to you more.

Can't wait to sarge with u and Superchill, Ic3man...i got some big plans coming up

 

[spesmilitis]

If its the first weeks/days of school, then you can't go wrong no matter what you say. If its later in the year, you should depend more on social circles and parties to meet girls. If you still want to meet them, have a happy expression on your face, and try to make eye contact with girls, if they make eye contact, smile, say hi, then talk to her. As for meeting strangers, I dunno. My approach game with strangers sucks.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Wait until she gets more milk - they always get more milk - then you coincidently bump into her !

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Normally I would agree that hitting on girls in the cafeteria is a great idea, but there is something about it. I always heard from more expirenced friends that girls are weird with eating, that approaching a girl that's eating at the mall/restaurant/dorm cafeteria, is a bad idea and they don't like it for some reason. If it wasn't for this, I'd be talking to girls in my dorm's cafeteria all the time. Then again, I've never tried this tactic or witnessed anyone try it so I don't know if it works.

Definitely a blocker in your head. From my experience of approaching girls in the cafeteria that yes...they'll find it weird/unexpected/random at first, because its "Not predictable and socially acceptable". But believe me, they'll remember you the next time they see you and it will not be a normal "look" they give you. Try it man...trust me, u'll be surprised. Don't go by wat girls/friends say...most of them don't even know what they're talking about.

Approach who u want to, when u want to(Within reason) and don't apologize for it.

How do you know, though? Did you do it for yourself, witnessed someone else try it? Are you a girl that it's happened to?

Why do you think it's a bad idea to talk to them in the cafeteria during the school year rather than just the beginning? Is it because you think you have to be "settled in" and stay where you're at? Because at least for me it's not like that. Even near the end of my first semester, I am still meeting people in my dorm.

Yeah, and this is right after you've slipped some roofies into her drink.

Exactly Brett.
To Spesmilitis, don't be an excuser. Get out of ur comfort zone and go for what u want. A period of time for a school year should not matter. No need to do what other people do, u do wat u want to.

 

[SickAgain]

These guys are all wrong. The way you do it is make small talk with the girl while she's getting food in the lines. Then in the dining area you approach her while she's sitting down ask her if she'd like some company. Or you don't even have to wait for them to sit down just never stop talking to them from the lines and follow her like a lost dog. Never fails, just don't make a big deal out of it and they won't.

 

[EFFORT]

Don has it right. A lot of you guys are looking at this wrong. If your a cool guy thats social/normal and offers value its gonna go good and they/she will be glad you joined. And as far as a 1on1 caf approach.....basically the easiest situation you could ask for, a girl sitting by herself eating :rockon:

And Kwello you have to look beyond the words, so pimp isn't walking up needy, his not verbals are all non reactive and the girl can feel it. A lot of people fall into the trap of looking at words and saying oh xyz sounds needy etc instead of looking at the attitudes/beliefs/values/context/reality of the guy thats saying it.