Picking girl up vs meeting them out

[BJP1991]

2nd date and beyond only and if you are not strictly hanging at your/her place.

Pick her up and take her out? Or, have her meet you out?

Personally, after a good first date (I.e. making out/sex), I don’t mind picking a girl up from her home for a second or third date, if we aren’t staying in and making dinner. However, could this be indicative of showing her too much interest or intent by picking them up?

 

[Spaz]

I always offer to pick a girl up on a 1st date, that's the rule of thumb.

It sets a good vibe for the 1st few dates.

 

[biggoal]

I always offer to pick a girl up on a 1st date, that's the rule of thumb.

It sets a good vibe for the 1st few dates.

On OLD they don't seem to like that.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

I always offer to pick a girl up on a 1st date, that's the rule of thumb.

It sets a good vibe for the 1st few dates.

i love the offer, it seems gentlemanly to me (i sometimes prefer to meet). same as opening the car door. it’s a sweet, dominant gesture. plus, when you drop her off the bed is very close by.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

On OLD they don't seem to like that.

Because you give off a serial killer vibe.

 

[Julian]

i live in a big metropolis so its common to use lyft and uber alot. Usually dates involve drinking so you can just let loose and not worry about either of you driving plus you can easily just say “lets get a lyft to my apt i wanna show you” and if she agrees you known its going down

 

[biggoal]

Because you give off a serial killer vibe.

I was just on a date this past sat.

 

[Spaz]

Because you give off a serial killer vibe.

Hahaha

Yes he does but in his defence, he has some known condition that makes it extremely difficult to see the different colors of social nuance.

It's more like black or white for him.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Hahaha

Yes he does but in his defence, he has some known condition that makes it extremely difficult to see the different colors of social nuance.

It's more like black or white for him.

Fair enough, sorry biggoal. good job on your HB8 date Sat! Hope it continues to go well.

 

[biggoal]

Fair enough, sorry biggoal. good job on your HB8 date Sat! Hope it continues to go well.

Fair enough, sorry biggoal. good job on your HB8 date Sat! Hope it continues to go well.

Not expecting much. She teaches and is very busy, but I'm talking to two others in Charlotte County on there. Yea, it's rare to see even two people from our county on there at once on the same day who're not fat. Shocked I got a reply. One of them though I dunno about. Her profile she lists herself as very shy and she was blowing up my message inbox too but when I asked for her number she said she doesn't want to give it out yet and wants to talk on there instead. Very odd. on OLD believe it or not I find it pretty easy to get numbers when I asked for them when chatting with someone after a few messages. For various reasons though A lot of times I never ask them out once I find out more. Like one girl ghosted me because Of a certain religion group I don't like. Thought I was racist.

This was HB7. The HB8 was all the way in Bonita and didn't like the distance when she asked how far my house was from Bonita. She wanted within 30 miles of Bonita on her profile. My house is almost 50 miles away.

 

[Spaz]

Fair enough, sorry biggoal. good job on your HB8 date Sat! Hope it continues to go well.

It's not really hard to get women, even for many men here.

Every single women I knew or slept with always were attracted to the animal within me.

And almost every single women I've ever been with always desired my love, which acts like an engine for their own salvation.

Biggoal and others here just need to know that women actually subconsciously seek that.

That's the long term sustainability of being forever attractive even as age creeps up upon a man.

 

[BJP1991]

I was just on a date this past sat.

No one cares. You make the same stupid mistakes over and over again and try to ask us “why”. Stop being reactive and start being proactive/preventative.


We can’t fix your problems. Only you can. And hijacking yet another thread for the same BS over and over again gets you nowhere.



For all who replied - thanks for the good info. I’m in agreement with basically everything said. I have a second date with a girl tonight and I’m picking her up/taking her out.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

2nd date and beyond only and if you are not strictly hanging at your/her place.

Pick her up and take her out? Or, have her meet you out?

Personally, after a good first date (I.e. making out/sex), I don’t mind picking a girl up from her home for a second or third date, if we aren’t staying in and making dinner. However, could this be indicative of showing her too much interest or intent by picking them up?

Its irrelevant. Pickup or not. Focus on leading. Her compliance is a indicator of interest level.

 

[RangerMIke]

Like @Spaz said, offer to pick her up if that makes sense for you... but you should be busting your @ss the get her. If where you are headed is someplace in the middle and it doesn't make logistical sense then tell her you will meet her. Offer, but if she says she'll meet you there then just be okay with that. It really doesn't matter one way or the other. There could be any number of reasons good reasons why she doesn't want you picking her up... YEARS ago I had a chick that would never let me pick her up at her place, after we'd been dating for a couple of months I insisted that I come and get her.... she eventually agreed, but man did that turn into a sh!t show.

It turned out that one of her old BFs was casually staking her... driving by her house... bvllsh!t like that, and he happened to be coming by one day and saw me there and created a scene in front of her house, which was NOT fun. The moral of the story is she probability has a good reason why she doesn't want you to pick her up... just accept it and don't worry about it because it really has nothing to do with you.

 

[Glassguy]

If I know the chick or have at least seen her in real life, I will offer to pick her up. It makes sex easier when you drop her off if both interest levels are high.

If there is any chance that she doesnt look like her pics (OLD, facebook, social media meet) then I meet her out. I wont get in a situation with someone that isnt attractive in real life being stuck in my car with me and then have the urge to bail out and cant.