"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Picking a day

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So I hadn't talked to a girl in a while, ended up texting her last night asking if she wanted to go to this haunted house(she had talked about wanting to go there with me a lot in the school year, im almost positive she liked me but may have lost interest once summer started, not sure though). She said "Haha, hey whatsup up and um. Monday I gotta see maybe", and I responded "Haha alright don't chicken out on me. I'll text you the details tommorow or something. Gotta go :p". So today I have to text her the for sure day and time, do I just say "Hey so is Monday night good for you?". Or do I be more assertive than that?

Another question, how do you guys handle it if they say they're busy one night. She said yes to going with me when I asked her about it in like May, but we never really picked a day. If she says she's busy Monday night, how do I ask for a different day? I was thinking "Haha alright, when are you free?" but I'm not sure if that would work. Any help would be appreciated guys.

Thanks in advance,

Mando

Edit:Texted her, she said "Idk yet". Any ideas on how to respond? Thanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mando said:
So I hadn't talked to a girl in a while, ended up texting her last night asking if she wanted to go to this haunted house(she had talked about wanting to go there with me a lot in the school year, im almost positive she liked me but may have lost interest once summer started, not sure though).

Texting out of the blue is like rubbing a lamp and hoping a genie comes out to grant you 3 wishes.... You had built up attraction and interest in her back during the school year, that is when you should've have acted on this situation.

Now your coming from position with zero to little attraction; hoping to start a forest fire...


She said "Haha, hey whatsup up and um. Monday I gotta see maybe"

******** translation: If nothing better comes up I might consider hanging out with you, but don't count on it.

and I responded "Haha alright don't chicken out on me. I'll text you the details tommorow or something. Gotta go :p".

Why are you texting her the details when she didn't say yes???

So today I have to text her the for sure day and time, do I just say "Hey so is Monday night good for you?". Or do I be more assertive than that?

How can you be more assertive?? Again, you asked her to hang out with you and she hasn't given you a yes, and 9/10 a "maybe' is a nice way of saying no.

Another question, how do you guys handle it if they say they're busy one night.

When a girl has high interest in you, she'll make time for you. So if you ask her to go out on a night when she already has plans, she'll counter-offer.

"I'm busy Monday, but I'm free Wednesday??" She didn't do this, which again is due to the fact that your coming outta the woods trying to get in contact with her again.

She said yes to going with me when I asked her about it in like May, but we never really picked a day.

We?? Why didn't YOU pick a day???

If she says she's busy Monday night, how do I ask for a different day? I was thinking "Haha alright, when are you free?" but I'm not sure if that would work. Any help would be appreciated guys.

If she doesn't counter offer after this text exchange you should take the hint; she's not interested. Again, you need to create, build and amplify attraction. You haven't done any of this, which is why your not getting her to commit to going out with you...

Thanks in advance,

Mando
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Alright, thanks for the advice, I'll get right on that. So if she says shes busy or she doesn't know yet, I'll just assume she's not interested at the time. Should I slowly start to text her more often and build comfortability again? Thanks.

-Mando
 
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No. She's not into you. Comfortability doesn't increase attraction, it increases rapport. If there's no initial firey attraction to go with that rapport, then it's called a friendship. Basic stuff.
 
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MisterMcGee said:
No. She's not into you. Comfortability doesn't increase attraction, it increases rapport. If there's no initial firey attraction to go with that rapport, then it's called a friendship. Basic stuff.
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Oh alright. Well it seemed like she was interested during the school year but I'm probably wrong since I don't have much experience. Doesn't matter anymore because even if she was attracted its probably all gone by now as pimp said. If she says no or shes busy I'll probably just end up not talking to her anymore, but do you think you could help me out with the current situation? I said I'd text her tommorow to see whatsup, and even though theres nothing agreed, and I need some help on what to say. Even if it is true that theres no attraction and whatnot, friends would still be a nice thing to be with her since she's friends with a lot of cute girls so that could be a plus. So anyways, thanks again for the advice, I'll be sure to use it. I kinda want to start talking to her again, so if someone could point me in the right direction that'd be much appreciated as well.

-Mando
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bump. I realized that I should have asked her out earlier, at least thats something learned for next time :p
 
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