"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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picked up a girl in starbucks, went to 1 down the street she was there!

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this is royally messed up, i set myself a 20min time limit to pick up the girl next to me in starbucks and set an alarm on my phone so that i wouldnt forget. did ok, got the number and split. unfortunately she's leaving the country tomorrow to go back home and will be back in may and has exams.

anyway i said my goodbyes and that i had to go get my car. i did and i parked up and went to the starbucks down the road from the 1 i picked her up in.

the thing is i was shocked to see her and her to see me cos it may looked as if i followed her.. i just went up to her and said 'hey you moved?' and she said ';yeah the other 1 was closing'

i didnt know what to do so i just walked away to another table further away with my back facing her. is this going to look really messed up for me?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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big weezy said:
is this going to look really messed up for me?
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It happened. Nothing you can do about it now. So why bother worrying?
 
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i didnt expect to see her tbh, and tbh i went to this 1 after i got my car so i could avoid her and pick up some new girls haha.. but she caught me by surprised. tbh she was so into what she was doing and with earphones on she wouldnt have noticed me. but it may look as if i've followed her here.

im now studying on a table far away from her near the exit. it's a small starbucks only about 12 tables in here. i reckon she'll just walk out without saying goodbye to me cos im avoiding sitting towards her in any direction for it to be misconstrued, which also means that as she leaves she wont really notice me as i'm not facing her. should i try to see if i can get an immediate date? this starbucks closes in 30mins
 
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Iceberg said:
It happened. Nothing you can do about it now. So why bother worrying?
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thats true, but what should i do about it now?
 
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fvck it doesnt matter now, she caught me by surprise again. said goodbye as she walked out. that was nice of her. but she mighta been creeped out. i half heartedly said something but it was too late, i was expecting her to leave later and i was in the middle of typing.

maybe it's for the best, i doubt she'd gone on an immediate date with me unless i created more interest earlier.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When u call her up, why don't u be honest. Say "u know what i kind of felt like a jackass for talking to u when i saw u again, i just didn't want to act like i was bothering u". It shows that u like her, U were trying to be considerate, U r not a creep and the courage to admit u may of did something wrong. < All those qualities sound pretty good to me for a guy.

When life hands u lemons make lemonade my friend. U can even finish with "Look i tell u what let me make it up to you by (invite her somewhere)"

Take her coffee shop again or more preferably something u found that shes interested in on the phone. eg. Ice skating, Bowling, Pool, Mexican?...

She said goodbye to you, so she obviously wasn't creeped out, she was probs wondering why u didn't come over. So relax bro and if it dosn't happen theres billions of other hot girls.
 
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