"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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****Pick-Up of the Century Advice Needed: Hottest Girl in School [Get in here DJs]***

Dante420

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Alright so here's the situation

I've just about known this girl since Freshman year and we are both Juniors now. We both smoke marijuana so that's our common ground and usually what brings us together - as friends/acquaintances. Although we always talked in the classes we shared together over the years, we didn't start hanging out after school until just recently.


She's been on and off with her ex-boyfriend for about 3 years and it this time it doesn't look like he wants her back, he's spending a lot of his time with another girl. She does still like him and wants him but doesn't want to make any moves on him and time heals all wounds. Prior to just recently when we started hanging out (last 3-4 weeks) I asked this girl for a lot of advice over the past few months. She's called me a playa, and she knows the number of girls that show interest in me. It was just last Friday that I asked her if I should go to the movies with the girl I planned to or our should I hang out with this girl who wants to sleep over my house.

I'm ambitious and I'm not letting this opportunity pass me, now that we started hanging outside of school. This girl is the hottest girl in my school, she's an official undisputed 10. She looks so good that even my ex-girlfriend said that she was the hottest in our school and my ex-girlfriend has nothing but negative things to say about every single girl.

So you know this is the real deal, she's a 10 so adjust your game and strategy accordingly.

So my social proof is okay, just because she knows about the girls I deal with. She knows I just came off a long term relationship (LTR as they call them here) to, she was the one who told me that my ex was seeing someone.

So how do I start to make the transition between friends who hang out maybe a couple times a week to a successful pick-up, not looking for a relationship and I don't think she is either.

Any advice is much appreciated.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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pua1989

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it sounds to me like youre already in the friend zone...if youve been hanging out for 3-4 weeks and you guys havent hooked up yet, thats an issue. makeyoure move asap
 

Hughman

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Dish out the kino, and make a move, as said it may be too late. Got common ground on the grass? Tell her to come over and sample some, or something.
 

Dante420

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I go for the kino as much as I can. Anything else? Thanks for the advice so far, I'd like to turn this thread into a good spot to share advice on this type of situation.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Go in for a kiss, and if she rejects you then theres no point in moving any further cause you'd have to chase her.
If she kisses you back then you're in!

But dude honestly, loose the 'hottest girl in school' pedestaling crap.
The girl I think is the hottest girl in my school I only give a 9; social status of beauty is irrelevant to a Don Juan because there are so many other beautiful women out there that it shouldn't matter how high you'd rate them if you can find another just as easily.

My rating system goes by the strength of physical attraction a woman's presence has on me. I completely bypass this presence though. I don't ignore the level of attraction, but if you judge women so highly as if they were queens, you're only sucking up to them and it really doesn't help your game.
You should only give back what you feel they deserve - a girl would have to treat me like a king in order for me to treat her like a queen.

Stay focused on your game! Good luck, but be careful since this girl has an on/off relationship with her ex.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cherokee

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Go in for a kiss, and if she rejects you then theres no point in moving any further cause you'd have to chase her.
If she kisses you back then you're in!
This is a garuntee of an answer at least. If she gives you the "lets just be friends" you went down the wrong path in the first place. Secondly, stop placing mega value on her beauty! change the focus to you "Is she good enough for me?" and then the process of DJism starts turning.

Remember girls love guys who take them by the hand and kiss them, and lead them. Be a leader, do not leave decision makin to her. Why? because nothing will get decided and you will become an emotional tampooon who sits around waiting to be used.

Action Action Action.

If at first you don't succeed, switch some plates. Failure will make you better yourself.
 
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