"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Pick up girls in the Gym. whats your input?

ScrewIt

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pick up girls from the gym??

I dont know if there's anyone on this board that does it, but whats your input on this?

normally at the gym everyone seeems to have their own private space and appears like they dont want to be invaded, im guilty of this also.

earlier today in the gym, i was on a machine this hb9 wasnt done with and she asked nicely if she could finish her set, she seems interesting. I had not realized how hot she was until today when she came up to me. the majority of the girls there are hb7+(of course i dont wear my glasses in the gym so everything is blurry, even if someone was eyeing me i would not know.) And the thought occurred to me that i should try it.

any pua have experience aroudn this field (or not) and care to share their input about this??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lan

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Try asking about her workout routine.
 

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Chat her up and if she's receptive get her phone number.

Same as with any place.

BGMan
 

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I see so many schmucks who do this in the gym. I couple of pointers if you are doing approach in gym.

* Don't talk to her in the middle of a set, this is the worst thing you can do
* If she is wearing a freestyle don't bother
* Don't keep her from working out
* Don't comment on her workout or give advice like you know better than her, do this only if she asks.
* If she show disinterest in talking, bail!

And ask renegade, he has approached in gym.
 

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I dunno. I don't go to the gym for social meetings. i doubt she goes to be picked up by guys. Leave it till outside.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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-HPNOTIQ-

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There are two types of women who work out at gyms.

1. There is the woman that goes to a gym and is serious about working out. This woman runs 5 miles on the tread mill, does more crunches then most men, most likely listening to music from her headphones, and is on routine with her workout. She's probably been going there for years and has been hit on by hundreds of "meat heads" over the years. -- This isn't the type of woman who is receptive to PUs, for obvious reasons. Usually, these women live structured lives and see the gym as a health club, not a night club. Is doing a cold PU on this woman possible? Absolutely..but, your chances for success are lessen. The way to break the ice on a women at gyms who go there all the time is for yourself to go there all the time. Social proof yourself with the staff, the trainers, and other 'gym rats'. The more she notices you, the less she thinks you're a stanger at the gym who's just there to pick up on women, and the more she thinks that you're serious about your body and workouts.

Simple opener "Wow...I swear I come to the gym 100 times a week and I always see you here. Are you sure you aren't stalking me? haha..just kidding..I'm hpnotiq.."


2. The other type of woman that goes to the gym is the newbie type who doesn't take working out too seriously, or pays $50/month for a membership and comes in twice a month kicking the weights around. Women like these are obvious. They look less experienced and do 3 reps on every machine giggling and complaining how hard it is to work out. These chicks are easy PUs. They are rarely at the gym and aren't usually numbed by 100's of approaches from the 'meat head' gallery. Most of the time, women like this are usually there in pairs and with that social proof you've built with staff and members going to the gym yourself all those years earning that sixpack, you already have an advantage - its your playground.

Easy Opener "Damn...you're going to kill yourself curlling those 5 pound weights...(chuckle and grin)...hahaha..just kidding...I've never seen you here before..my name is hpnotiq.."
 

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Ya, hitting on girls in the gym is HARD......everyone is in their own little world and you also have the intimidation of the giant guys that are always sizing everyone up......i personally haven't developed the balls for the gym pickup yet but hopefully i plan on reaching that stage one day......besides there are plenty of other places to work your game, i just consider the gym to be self improvement where i'm in the mindset of bombing whatever muscles i'm working that day until i leave it and enter the 'real' world
 

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OH....sorry but this just popped into my head.....ask her to give you a spot on something, then by her reaction decifer how interested she is in you, if not move on
 

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Clarification...

First, make eye contact. If she looks back rather than away, smile, nod, and say hello. If she smiles back, you know you have an opening. I have met a few girls in a gym, and I still say it's about as easy as elsewhere.

And yes, I usually stay away from girls who have headphones. After all, this means that they aren't open to talking with anybody since they have something stuck in their ears!

BGMan
 

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good tips guys, keep em coming,

hypnotiq: the hb9 i saw was probably a #2.
she's almost anorexic, and quite skinny, but honestly i dont even see a point for her even to blow money on the gym....compared to the chubby girls.

If i ever develop the balls to do this in the gym i will.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Usually Gyms offer group classes (cost extra - such as aerobic, weight training, Yoga, Martial arts) In those classes its much more easier to open up to people you see every week. You won't be the lurking stranger anymore.

If you ever sneak a peak inside an aerobic class, you usually see like 20 chicks and like 2-3 guys. Those guys are usually the ones working at the very back, they don't seem to put as much effort and all they do is stare at some nice chick's a$$. But in the end of class they are all friendly to all the naive women.
 

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I think that you dont have nothing to lose if you ask her phone number, no matter where you just have to approach and do it, and then based on her reaction go on or move.
 

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I've approached about 5 times on the stretch mats, which makes the PU attempt not so obvious as you're sitting side by side anyway.

Also stretching isn't that strenuous so you won't be interrupting their workout.

But I agree with HYPNOTIQ about needing social proof with the regulars. The more they see me being focussed on my workouts and talking with friends the more receptive they'll be.
 
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