"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pick up at club and she messages me next day

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She needs reminding? She sure sounds highly interested.

Just send her a text on Saturday beforehand and that way she has no excuse not to forget or whatever.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Aaron B

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In the future, don't accept her request for a confirmation.

We have to operate under the assumption that she is mature and responsible enough to handle something like showing up at a place she's agreed to be without being reminded.

You can even suggest she set a reminder on her phone or computer, or have one of her girlfriends remind her.

Her asking for a confirmation can be a way to turn you down without actually saying "no" on the phone.

She agrees and asks for confirmation. Then when you contact her later to confirm (or remind in this case), that gives her an opportunity to say "something came up, I'm really sorry, let's do it again another time."

Don't accept anything less than an enthusiastic "yes" from her when you extend the date opportunity.
 
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