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Physically-wise, anything I can change to better my apperance? *PICS INCLUDED*

Shivastorm_88

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Three pics:

http://img703.imageshack.us/i/photo1pl.jpg/
http://img824.imageshack.us/i/photo3gx.jpg/
http://img35.imageshack.us/i/photo2ki.jpg/

I guess the first step would be to lose clothes like I'm wearing in picture 1 (I have a lot) and try to get more stylish clothes.

In those images I appear quite skinny, although I did bulk up quite a bit since I started climbing, those pictures are before climbing

Also, I have curly hair (afro style) so longer hair is not an option for me :/ I dislike afros lol


Any suggestions?
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jariel

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Whenever guys ask for tips on appearance I always suggest bulking up or getting lean. I personally found once I packed on some lean muscle the female attention just started pouring in.

I let myself go a lot last year, but spent this year getting back in shape. I could literally see people's attitude changing towards me throughout the year as I neared my goals, women who had barely noticed me, as young as 18 and into their 40s, in relationships, started developing crushes on me. What's more, my whole attitude and confidence changed too.

It's hard work sticking to a gym routine and a productive diet, but it gives you focus, discipline, confidence and a mindset that every DJ seeks.

I know you said you have bulked up from climbing and if that's the case, stick with it.

I agree, an afro on a white guy is not a good look. Try growing it short, but not too short. Otherwise, just good grooming and fashionable clothing.
 

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you appear skinny because you are skinny. Bulk up, but not too outrageously and that'll help a great deal. Right now you kind of look a little like a doofus, but I don't know you personally so you could be chill and I am missing a key component. Also agree with the other guys on getting some hair. If you got it, flaunt it. Save the shaving for when you are losing your hair.

I used to be as skinny as you and women didn't take me seriously. After a serious personality fix and moderate size gains ( from 130 to about 180), women eat it up.
 

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1) gain some weight
2) let some hair grow; not full blown afro but something that can be seen, or even a length that will allow you to play with it more. Curly hair could be awesome if done right.
3) get better style! visit www.styleforum.net for ideas and a general understanding of different styles and what is "in" these days.
4) try some facial hair
5) a bit of a tan if you're in a place with a sun. (don't fake and bake)

You will get there; good luck!!
 

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Wear your watch on the OTHER arm!

- Grow some hair.

- Work out (This is always a good thing)

- Explain your clothing style, i assume there could be some improvements there too.
 

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For starters to help you out asap check your posture. Make sure your shoulders are up and your chest is out. Be confident and walk like it.

As far as dressing goes try wearing some Military fashion type of clothing. T-shirts or dress shirts. Also make sure the shirts are snug and have a good fit. You can search for these on the internet.

At store's like Macy's you can find Military style shirt's made by the brand International concept's. Also try adding some extra flair maybe a wallet chain for show.

This will no Doubt Help You.
 

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Like the others said, grow out your hair.
I'll go further and say you should go with a David Beckham length/cut
Grow about a 3 day beard and keep that beard length....forget the goatee
Maybe an earring and lots of black clothes w/ silver accessories
Stop dressing like your goal in life is to work in a camping store
 

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If you had posted your pictures on any other forum I seriously would have thought you're gay!

I'm sorry to tell you brother but you look gay. Unless you want to be a woman's gay friend rather than the guy **** her you need to make some radical changes.

1. shaven hair doesn't suit you. You need to grow hair: It's been said already in this thread and that's a good thing as this shows there's a consensus. Grow your hair a little more. Get a hair style going.

2. Try wearing more mature clothing that doesn't make you look so hippish: I'm sorry but the clothes you wear combined with your hair cut makes you look like some gay yoga instructor!

I don't want you thinking i'm being mean to you or anything. I have suffered from looking like a nice guy all my life i'm being real with you. I went from wearing a sweater everyday with long hair to cutting it short, wearing khakis, black dress shoes and long sleeve shirts with facial hair. I had to do a complete 180 in order to get respect.

If you look like a nice guy or look gay (and i have suffered from both due to having a pretty face and looking young too) you need to make a change ASAP.

Women won't respect you as a man if you look like that. And what I mean by respecting you as a man is thinking of you as a possible man in their life and not a gay friend they can talk about fashion.
 

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f283000 said:
I'm sorry to tell you brother but you look gay.
:crackup:
Seriously though, I wouldn't go so far to say he looks gay. To me he looks exactly like a high school class clown. The type of guy that is always joking and you can't tell when he's being serious.

Definitely grow your hair out. I actually like the t-shirts as well, nothing wrong with the wardrobe from what I can see. If you want to stand out, then of course you'd have to change. Basically hit the gym and eat 3000+ calories a day along with heavy lifting. Pay attention to your progress though; being cut with a six pack is better than being buff with a little gut.

Remember:
http://www.graphicsdb.com/data/media/662/paul_walker-2493.jpg
makes more panties moist than
http://www.ioffer.com/img/item/938/751/61/hAGv6HqiS3iA4US.jpg
every time
 

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European-DJ said:
Wear your watch on the OTHER arm!
Whut? Right-handed people wear it left, left-handed wear it right. Are the chicks magically going to flock to him because he wears it on the other side?
 

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Good job atleast coming in here and asking for advice with a picture. You have to want to really get better to do that.
 

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Alright, some pretty harsh comments hahah... That's what I was looking for.

So I guess:

1) Let my hair grow a bit longer (although this part I don't know yet, I've received so many positive feedback from everyone around me, it's gotta count for something). However if I do let it grow, I can't have it very long due to massively curly hair. I was also contemplating a hat, but only during winter. Regular caps do not suit my head shape at all unfortunately. I'm assuming you guys would suggest a hair length close to this? (again, old picture, I'm not as skinny anymore)

http://img209.imageshack.us/i/photo4uj.jpg/

2) Get some facial hair. Problem is, my beard is slow as **** to grow and I don't have a full beard everywhere. Right now shaving every day to change that, but it's my goal, either a goatee or a 3-4 day shave appearance.

3) Accessory-wise... Watch, what the hell? righty = left hand, lefty = right hand, why would I switch? And I do have a black earring in my left ear, it simply doesn't show and a necklace. I always thought that was enough, I could always look into a ring of some sort.

4) Clothing style, that's my old wardrobe. Right now, I wear much more long-sleeves or shirts, I rarely go out with simply a t-shirt. I also dropped the comedy shirts, I try to dress more stylishly. As for my shoes, for once in my life I bought stylish shoes which got me a few compliments as well, I guess that's a good sign! :D

Clothing example:

http://www.jiniy.com/shop/step1.php?number=1692&PHPSESSID=8828b770c6d5108674fc8246ccc8f3b4
http://www.jiniy.com/shop/step1.php?number=3129&PHPSESSID=8828b770c6d5108674fc8246ccc8f3b4
http://www.jiniy.com/shop/step1.php?number=3518&PHPSESSID=8828b770c6d5108674fc8246ccc8f3b4

5) Body-wise, I can't bodybuild anymore, shoulder injury. Although like mentioned, I am a lot into rock climbing, as well as hiking and Moksha Yoga (intense cardio), and it did build me a nice shape. I pretty much have a six pack with a decent build (not skinny or anything)... I guess close to the Paul Walker photo, although not as built, but close.

Anything I'm missing?

edit:

6) Posture, because of my shoulder injury, that's a hard thing. I try to work on that, but I naturally lean forward a lot, and it's hard for me to correct that. Climbing has helped, but it hasn't fixed it completely.

7) For the tan, simply put, I'm white. The first picture is kind of my prime tan, after so many hours spent outdoors. I can't get brown, I just get lightly darker.
 

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I second what others have said about your clothes and build. A shoulder injury should not completely impede your ability to lift weights. Anything will help.

But focus on what you've got going for you. You look like you're pretty tall, so that's a huge plus. Play into that adventurous look you've got going, but not to the extent that you are in that picture. Try some stylish yet rugged jackets, and some flannels. The outdoorsman look could work for you but **** dude gain some weight don't be a 130 pound Paul Bunyan.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Shivastorm_88

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Twenty-Two Two's said:
I second what others have said about your clothes and build. A shoulder injury should not completely impede your ability to lift weights. Anything will help.

But focus on what you've got going for you. You look like you're pretty tall, so that's a huge plus. Play into that adventurous look you've got going, but not to the extent that you are in that picture. Try some stylish yet rugged jackets, and some flannels. The outdoorsman look could work for you but **** dude gain some weight don't be a 130 pound Paul Bunyan.
Hahah don't worry, right now I'm at 160lbs, 5'10", with a six-pack when flexed (or the outline when not flexed), like I specified in my original post (although didn't stress it enough) I'm not as skinny as before.
 

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Asking a bunch of strangers on the internet about your looks will LOWER your confidence. Stop this.
 

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I think you need to build up your upper body. Climbing will keep you lean but isn't going to bulk you up. I know you said you have a shoulder injury but I'm not sure that would preclude you from lifting weights. Seems like if you can climb you could do some lifting. But that's a medical question.

I agree the shaven head doesn't suit you. There's nothing wrong with having curly hair. Just keep it short, kind of like a young James Caan:
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_LikzyndVj-g/ScuBbgkEGsI/AAAAAAABAM8/CHAj6Pt4HFY/s400/James+Caan.jpg
 

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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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