"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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kelv

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to my fellow brothers here,

to be honest...do you tend to ignore physically unattractive girls? I read somewhere that we makefriends with them because they usually have hot friends. Sometimes i duno why, i dun feel like talking to them at all assuming I dun know them in the first place. although i do always tell myself to look for the inner beauty in them. man...i feel so shallow.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheMale

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personally i don't know why but i have a serious problem with fat chicks
if a friend introduce me her friend (fat chick) i will kind of ignore her
if she's unattractive bur not fat i will not ignore her

but about the fat chick its a big problem i know ... i'm working on it !!!

and i don't like being friend with someone for my personal benefit !:)
 

ARrocket

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haha I've noticed this as well. I have a hard time even being friends (at the most basic level) with ugly girls. It's almost like if I can't fantasize about them every now and again, I don't even want to talk to them. Shallow, I know.
 

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Nothing wrong with that,you are just doing what nature wants you to do.
The problem is someone else who think he has a moral duty to be nice to anyone in order to dont lose the morally right aura just like the people who do charity to get an ego boost and brag about it instead of feeling it.

And faking a friendship with someone in order to take a personal advantage is just something disgusting,better to make thing clears and find a deal.

Btw about the ugly girls well yeah it happen the same to me,somehow I feel like there's something wrong with them...probably cause I'm an old school sexist who
cannot appreciate such things as "female friendship".
 

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kelv said:
to my fellow brothers here,

to be honest...do you tend to ignore physically unattractive girls? I read somewhere that we makefriends with them because they usually have hot friends. Sometimes i duno why, i dun feel like talking to them at all assuming I dun know them in the first place. although i do always tell myself to look for the inner beauty in them. man...i feel so shallow.
THE TRUTH: Female Friends

More specifically this post.

I am nice but try to avoid getting close.

They have nothing I want, and I don't them to think that I might like them. I don't want to play with their feelings.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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cablecow15

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this is because in nature ,there should be no reason for a man and woman to be friends , there's almost always a ulterior motive , most of the time those men will never come close to their hopes lol
 

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I've tried to lower my standards to feel "less shallow" but like someone else said, it's as biology intended. We are attracted to certain women for a reason. Of course if the personality is sh*t I don't care how attractive she is...but looks are what most guys notice first.

The guys that date and marry UGs are just guys that gave up on getting the women they really want and convince themselves "I have this real connection with her."
 

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There's this one kinda chubby chick I become pretty good friends with last winter. Its pretty cool man. She might do things for me that guy friends wouldn't do (like back rubs), but other than that it's just like a normal friendship and I absolutely like her (non-sexually). We can kick it, have some beers, go out and it's all cool.
The most important thing about having a friendship with a girl you're not attracted to is that you're actually fond of her as a friend and she understands the status quo and doesn't make any moves on you. Cause if she did it'd probably be over.

Unattractive girls def make better friends than attractive ones. You'll never become unsatisfied with your friendship because you want to fvck them and so you'll never become an orbiter... unless she's REEALLY big ;)
 

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I talk to everybody.
Doesn't mean you have to do them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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kelv

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hahahahha....very interesting posts from all of you....thanks!
 

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There is definitely something society brings to the table that plays in a man's mind about reaching for that golden girl (no, not Betty White). We're all mixed up looking at each other and comparing what everyone has instead of being certain about what we want.

Personally, I'd be fine with having not so hot women as friends. Good conversation is good conversation. If anything, you get to practice social skills and see how a female reacts.

Sometimes a better personality forms inside a HB4-5 that could have been there if she was an HB7-10, but was masked by her beauty. Because of the looks, she'll probably adapt to being showered with gifts and praise to the point that she may never find her true self.

Think of the less attractive women as good conversation and social skill practice. Take what you learn and adapt that to the HB7-10's.

Xanthus
 
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