"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I got a couple quick questions.

I'm hopefully going to be trying out for a club hockey team and i know a couple things that are going to be on the try out routine.

The first of which is a 3 mile run. I just did this in 28 minutes, only walking 3 out of 24 3/4 laps. I thought this was pretty respectable as i have NEVER tried to run that far.

The second of which is sit-ups. I'm going to assume its timed for like a minute, so when i did that, i was able to do 38 situps. I'm not sure if thats good or bad.

The third of which is push-ups. I haven't tried this yet, but i would like to know how many would be a good amount to do.

I'm 18 years old, 5'8 and i weigh 130 lbs.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just keep running, doing pushups, and situps. You'll get better over time. Make sure that you're eating properly as well. Here's what I would recommend for you to do up until the tryouts...

Day 1- Run 3 miles

Day 2- Pushups, Situps

Day 3- Practice Hockey

Day 4- Rest

Day 5- Repeat

Consistently follow this routine. Try and pace yourself for the three miles so that you won't have to walk, it will get easier over time.

For pushups and situps, do them three times that day, as many as you can in a row. Don't sacrifice form, do them correctly.

And of course, don't forget to practice your hockey since that is probably the thing the coaches are looking for most.
 

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I don't think i have that much time.... :(
 

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38 situps. I'm not sure if thats good or bad.
hmm... thats okay... you can do a lot better though... I know in School when we do the situps most kids get around 60's... I got 65 or something... Not the top but up there... keep it up and you'll get there...

As for running you kick my ass... I'm a sprinter... not a long distance runner... I could do it but I'd never have the will power...
 

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Originally posted by CapiCrimini
I could do it but I'd never have the will power...
I never thought i could either, i just sucked it up, almost killed myself, and ran.

I actually missed the first two days of try-out (Dry land) so i'm not sure whats going to happen. I e-mailed the coach... so we have to see.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well the only real advice I could give you is to push it and do the best that you can before and during tryouts. If you don't make it, at least you knew you gave it your all.

38 situps is okay, you should be able to do more.
 

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Originally posted by NRM
If you don't make it, at least you knew you gave it your all.
Thanks, I will.
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
I don't think i have that much time.... :(
Well you're going to have to make time for practice if you make the team, right?

This stuff should take no more than 40 minutes or so a day.
 

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I'm thinking about pre-tryouts. But i'm worried as to whether or not i'm going to be able to tryout at all :(

Wish me luck.
 

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Hells ya, the coach called me last night at 2 and i still have a chance to try out. I even get to avoid all the nasty dry land stuff ;) I still wanna do it though.

I think i have a good chance, theres 24 people +1 goalie on the team, and onl 28 people (including me) are trying out. Go me!

Wish me luck guys.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Update: Well after two days of try outs, I'll say I did the best i could. The bad part is I don't think it was good enough...

Oh well, I'm hoping the coach will allow me to practice with the team, then give me a chance to play in games, that would be kickin' rad. Then i'll try out again next year.

I'm playing more for the social outlet, plus i love being on the ice. I feel so alive.

Alright, peace wiggas
 
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