"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Physical Attraction, Hormonal Desire, Sex Drive, T

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Following the ''how to last longer during S''.

My question is this: ''How to get horny''

Here's a small background of me: I am never horny. 29 years old soon, male, come from female dominated work/households, overprotectize and crazy familly (I never cooked anything in my life until i was 21years old, because my mom would give me death threat and anger tantrum if she didn't do it for me... for the sake of doing it "right"... if she didn't get her way: she would go in crisis mode, still had a happy / stable family with weak father figure. Also, I have ADHD+Hyperactivity and OCD. Since I am a child, massage therapist and chiropractor /osteopathate would say I am stress jammed. I was videogame obsessed and always tried to be alone). My life been picking up at all level since I am 25 (adult hood natural cycle for adhd people). Life is great now ... however.. Still curious why I am never horny

For me everything seems to be mental... I attract a lot of girls attention and touch (just last night, the girl I was having a drink with said this: Wow, you look so much more in shape, and there is such a positive vibe out of you)...

From the longest, I can remember.... I've never had a physical attraction to a woman at the sight of a girl / Boner - D reaction.

She never made me horny by looking at her.... maybe 2 times in my entire life did my 3rd leg reacted to a woman. (My age 29 in March).... even last night... the girl was naked in front, perfect... but nothing... no reaction from me physically.

The only time I start feeling sensation or ''D drive'' is after a few minutes of talks and feeling time to close the ''deal'... Never had a drive towards guys either (so I am not homo).. or when I touch and get in a ''intimacy mode''. So talking/dreaming/physical intimacy will get me hard... but nothing on sight.

Even in the morning... I have little sensation.

So... Why? Because, why talk to a girl when you have no sex drive?

How do you create more sex drive?

How do you get your D to react to a woman on sight?

Only time: I get ''horny naturally' is when naked in bed with her.

Any ideas?

Also, if you guys have an idea why... in all the choices of the world.. It seems I always pick the "inexperienced - stubborn - probable anger lady - to awesome communication - caring one"
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you on any medication? Sometimes they affect sex drive.

I might not be that visual, myself. I am more mental. Most beautiful women bore me, to be honest. Being hot lets them never have to develop a personality.
 

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Are you on any medication? Sometimes they affect sex drive.

I might not be that visual, myself. I am more mental. Most beautiful women bore me, to be honest. Being hot lets them never have to develop a personality.
Never been on medical until this year. So medication might have low effect.

Stress, depression, lack of sleep, or adrenaline rush might have a playing factor.

I remember now, in 2011, when I was in politics and studying... my T drive was going high.

Recently all is going well but I got crazy stress and life schedule + lack of sleep. But Hormones did go up for a few minutes.

So I would consider the low drive to be a normality.

Might have dated my hand too long + porn (althought I can go months without that).

And a adrenaline rush rare
 

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Following the ''how to last longer during S''.

My question is this: ''How to get horny''

Here's a small background of me: I am never horny. 29 years old soon, male, come from female dominated work/households, overprotectize and crazy familly (I never cooked anything in my life until i was 21years old, because my mom would give me death threat and anger tantrum if she didn't do it for me... for the sake of doing it "right"... if she didn't get her way: she would go in crisis mode, still had a happy / stable family with weak father figure. Also, I have ADHD+Hyperactivity and OCD. Since I am a child, massage therapist and chiropractor /osteopathate would say I am stress jammed. I was videogame obsessed and always tried to be alone). My life been picking up at all level since I am 25 (adult hood natural cycle for adhd people). Life is great now ... however.. Still curious why I am never horny

For me everything seems to be mental... I attract a lot of girls attention and touch (just last night, the girl I was having a drink with said this: Wow, you look so much more in shape, and there is such a positive vibe out of you)...

From the longest, I can remember.... I've never had a physical attraction to a woman at the sight of a girl / Boner - D reaction.

She never made me horny by looking at her.... maybe 2 times in my entire life did my 3rd leg reacted to a woman. (My age 29 in March).... even last night... the girl was naked in front, perfect... but nothing... no reaction from me physically.

The only time I start feeling sensation or ''D drive'' is after a few minutes of talks and feeling time to close the ''deal'... Never had a drive towards guys either (so I am not homo).. or when I touch and get in a ''intimacy mode''. So talking/dreaming/physical intimacy will get me hard... but nothing on sight.

Even in the morning... I have little sensation.

So... Why? Because, why talk to a girl when you have no sex drive?

How do you create more sex drive?

How do you get your D to react to a woman on sight?

Only time: I get ''horny naturally' is when naked in bed with her.

Any ideas?

Also, if you guys have an idea why... in all the choices of the world.. It seems I always pick the "inexperienced - stubborn - probable anger lady - to awesome communication - caring one"
Get your Testosterone levels checked. Also get your testicles checked for varicocele, that can really mess up your T levels. I am speaking from experience, I found out I had varicocele and had a surgery done in November and now I feel like I was born again. I have daily morning wood and became very very motivated in life in general.

Btw I am 29 as well.
 

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Stress + bad sleep = low T. Low T = low sex drive.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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