Phrases that make you look weak in her eyes and that you should avoid

[DiegoSantori]

Everything seems to be fine: she is attracted to you, finds you aesthetically pleasing, worthy of a first date, but then... BOOM! GAME OVER! You've said something weak and, by doing this, lowered your value in her eyes. She has lost interest in you.

Let's collect some of these weak phrases:

- "I don't know. You can decide."

- "What do you think?"

- "Is that okay?"

- "I hope I don't bore you."

- "I would love to do this and that but (insert bs coward excuse)"

- "No, that's fine by me." (When in reality it's not.)

- "I'm worried about..."

- "Do you find me attractive?"

- "Sorry that I did this, that I did that, sorry that I'm annoying you, blabla..."

- "I wish I could be like..."

- "If only..."

- "I don't have..."

- "Yes, you are absolutely right." (Although you have a different opinion.)

- "I know this famous/rich guy…"

- "My friends do cool sh*t like.."

- "I don't do much in my spare time."

- "I need you."

- "You don't know how much you hurt me when you said that."

- "Why did you say this? What did you mean when you said this or that?"

- "Why you're looking like that? Have I done something wrong?"

- "Are you still interested in me?"

- "I'm so nervous right now."

 

[Wisconsin144]

Sad to say I made these mistakes, time to fix myself for the next girl

 

[zekko]

"I wish I had a big d!ck".

 

[RangerMIke]

Bragging about anything is another way to turn her off.

 

[bigneil]

Indeed, most of those things are feminine quotes. Foolish men think acting like women will get them laid.

A woman wants to uncover great things about you. They want to work for it. When you put things on display she will be turned off.

 

[crgideon]

I played high school football with a NFL MVP, I usually bring it up on dates. Do you think that makes me look weak?

 

[DiegoSantori]

I played high school football with a NFL MVP, I usually bring it up on dates. Do you think that makes me look weak?

Depends on your intention behind it. If you mention it with the intention of enhancing your prestige in her eyes, you're insecure and weak. If you mention it just as a side note, and you don't really care about it (i.e. you could just as well leave it unspoken), she won't perceive it as bragging.

 

[Bingo-Player]

not so much a phrase but In the first few encounters never EVER make any reference to sex , infact i dont ever bother with innuendo anymore

Chicks aint dull if she’s agreed to a date chances are she’s already imagined being drilled by you, she doesn’t need you to hint at what could happen it will simply ruin the suspense

Which for a woman is everything

 

[thelonewolflegend]

Im glad you mentioned was about to ask i worried.

When do you start talking sexual after u had sex?
Do u usually just non verbalize sex? Like touching holding her hand body language eye stare

 

[:-)]

Caring whether or not you look weak in her eyes also makes you look weak in her eyes.

 

[Crossbow]

Everything seems to be fine: she is attracted to you, finds you aesthetically pleasing, worthy of a first date, but then... BOOM! GAME OVER! You've said something weak and, by doing this, lowered your value in her eyes. She has lost interest in you.

Let's collect some of these weak phrases:

- "I don't know. You can decide."

- "What do you think?"

- "Is that okay?"

- "I hope I don't bore you."

- "I would love to do this and that but (insert bs coward excuse)"

- "No, that's fine by me." (When in reality it's not.)

- "I'm worried about..."

- "Do you find me attractive?"

- "Sorry that I did this, that I did that, sorry that I'm annoying you, blabla..."

- "I wish I could be like..."

- "If only..."

- "I don't have..."

- "Yes, you are absolutely right." (Although you have a different opinion.)

- "I know this famous/rich guy…"

- "My friends do cool sh*t like.."

- "I don't do much in my spare time."

- "I need you."

- "You don't know how much you hurt me when you said that."

- "Why did you say this? What did you mean when you said this or that?"

- "Why you're looking like that? Have I done something wrong?"

- "Are you still interested in me?"

- "I'm so nervous right now."

If you're worried about phrases etc. making you look "weak" in her eyes. You still haven't gotten it yet.

 

[ZTIME]

Great info here. Sometimes you'll find a thread that explains positive mindset as a whole which all DJs must embrace. Although you should never be dependent on the responses from anyone based on what you say, you must still understand the reason why your speaking to begin with.

Listen, all conversation with any human (male or female) does require a result. Why? Because if it didn't, none of us would ever need to communicate. The trick is to speak understanding what end result you're looking for. From closing a deal, to getting a good deal, from meeting people, to banging a chick, from telling a joke, to ordering a pizza, it all requires words coming out of your mouth.

Now the job is to understand confidence, body language, and basic principals of speech, which greatly compliment whatever it is you're trying to say.

Now talk to as many people as you can and learn the phrases, sentences, and lines that get you to your desired result in the shortest amount of time.

Don't think about what people think of you while you're talking. Ask yourself if you're getting the desired result you require when talking to them.

 

[bigneil]

-"I apologize for..."

 

[MOTU]

That's good stuff, Repped.

I would add: if you really don't care, you have to express it in a way that comes across as: "That's trivial. You should be handling that on your own and not bothering me with it".

 

[Trump]

Everything seems to be fine: she is attracted to you, finds you aesthetically pleasing, worthy of a first date, but then... BOOM! GAME OVER! You've said something weak and, by doing this, lowered your value in her eyes. She has lost interest in you.

Let's collect some of these weak phrases:

- "I don't know. You can decide."

- "What do you think?"

- "Is that okay?"

- "I hope I don't bore you."

- "I would love to do this and that but (insert bs coward excuse)"

- "No, that's fine by me." (When in reality it's not.)

- "I'm worried about..."

- "Do you find me attractive?"

- "Sorry that I did this, that I did that, sorry that I'm annoying you, blabla..."

- "I wish I could be like..."

- "If only..."

- "I don't have..."

- "Yes, you are absolutely right." (Although you have a different opinion.)

- "I know this famous/rich guy…"

- "My friends do cool sh*t like.."

- "I don't do much in my spare time."

- "I need you."

- "You don't know how much you hurt me when you said that."

- "Why did you say this? What did you mean when you said this or that?"

- "Why you're looking like that? Have I done something wrong?"

- "Are you still interested in me?"

- "I'm so nervous right now."

I think you can get away with everything on the list saving the ones in bold.

I think I've said every single one of them and it hasn't been a problem, it all depends HOW you say it. The one thing you cannot let her know or show is if you are NERVOUS in ANY circumstance. Being nervous is a killer.

Saying "I love you, I miss you, I need you, we are one, you mean the world to me, I don't know what I would do without you, please don't go," you can say all that. Just remember to also say, "but you can leave anytime you like."

 

[skinnyguy]

"You're beautiful"

 

[SeymourCake]

I was assigned in a group as the group leader and I asked a female member in the group "Is it okay....". Guess I screwed up.

 

[Dingo]

I've made many of this mistakes... but I'm learning...

 

[Atom Smasher]

I was assigned in a group as the group leader and I asked a female member in the group "Is it okay....". Guess I screwed up.

Yes, that was a screw-up, but you can offset it by ordering her to do something within the context of whatever your group is. Be the leader, the commander.

Demonstrating this to them ultimately means very little, but demonstrating it to yourself will yield great value.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I've made many of this mistakes... but I'm learning...

Good attitude.