"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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search1ng

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Anyone here have photography as a hobby?

I've always been interested in it but I've never had to money to buy a decent camera and start. Somewhat lame excuse but call me lazy, haha.

Anyway, how much can i get a decent camera for? Also what additional parts do i need to buy? Does anyone have like a set of guidelines i should look out for when purchasing a camera?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You can get a great entry level DSLR for well under a grand. I'd stick with Nikon or Canon. Buy a book on photographic techniques and learn about how to use ISO, f-stops and shutter speeds. That sort of thing. Get an assortment of lens filters to do interesting things(you'll need a UV filter at least to protect your lens. Get a tripod. Learn how to use Photoshop or Lightroom to fix your pics or do other interesting things like High Dynamic Range photography.
 

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Thanks for the input! I've got a sense or direction now, haha.
 

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Sweet! thanks for the links, especially love the first one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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search1ng said:
Anyone here have photography as a hobby?

I've always been interested in it but I've never had to money to buy a decent camera and start. Somewhat lame excuse but call me lazy, haha.
You don't have to spend a lot of money on a camera to get into photography. I have a Minolta XG-1 that I got from Goodwill for literally $5 (plus tax) that was in pretty much new condition and works great. It just needed some batteries and film and it was good to go. It's my favorite camera that I've had, and while I'd like to have a nice digital camera, I'm very satisfied with this.

I would highly suggest that you check out your local second hand store or check around for a good cheap camera, because it is much easier for you to drop it as a hobby if you are not interested than if you already sank hundreds (or thousands) of dollars into it. And remember that price does not make the camera, and that many cameras and photography equipment is ridiculously overpriced because they know people will be dumb enough to pay that much for it.
 
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