Phone or email first???

[damnbugs]

Alright- I was planning on calling her, but she also gave me her email.

What one should I use first?

Or should I send her an email and tell her I only have a minute and will give her a call later on?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Choose one or the other and suggest that you meet face to face.

 

[stalluproar]

I would email her first and tell her:

"I just wanted to write you quick to say nice meeting you on (day you met her). I am busy the next couple days, but we should get together and have some stimulating conversation. When I get a chance, I'll give you a call. Talk to you later"

This is a good template. Word it to your liking. Then after you email her, call her. It will warm her up to your call which means a lesser chance of the no contact game.

 

[Doctor Who]

Depends how old she is. If she is 18-20 or younger, then i would say you can get away with an email. Older than that, I think they are less open to the email dating thing.

Im a fan of the phone or face to face. It shows more confidence, and allows you to vibe with her more intimately.

 

[Jordache.DJ]

There are too many ways to loose an email. Also, the ball is immediately in her court.

You can't loose a phone call.

Try that first.

 

[PRMoon]

Phones are definately better because you usually get an awnser pretty quick.

I'm all about well timed speed when it comes to contacting a girl for the first time. And when I do I want to know what's going to happen right then. Even if you leave a voicemail, the girl's more likely to get to you faster then if you write an email.

I personally don't check my email any more then twice a day, but my cell phone is on twenty four seven so I'm always acessible that way, like millons of other people in the country.

Plus I think calling is a more direct way of showing interest. There's way less emotion and ways to manipulate the situation in even a well written email. But you can deliver a clear message that you can alter on the fly on the phone.

Just seems to me like the advantages of direct contact for just one person, are far more beneficial and numerous for calling.

 

[damnbugs]

Thanks for the advise guys! I agree the phone call is best.

I'll find out tonight...

 

[damnbugs]

I posted this on my other thread but thought I would update here as well;

Well I met her Sat and waited till tonight to call her.

Call went very well! I was able to let her do most of the talking without sounding like I was asking 20 questions.

The twist here is that so far she is one of the most confident/ intelligent females I have met!?

She is going to give me a call later this week. This could be more promissing then I thought- but yeah I know- keep the game on and avoid oneitis

 

[stalluproar]

Originally posted by damnbugs
She is going to give me a call later this week. This could be more promissing then I thought- but yeah I know- keep the game on and avoid oneitis

Why did she say she was going to call you? Never trust a female to call you. It sounds like she ended the phone call first which is a no no.

 

[damnbugs]

Yeah she did bring the call to an end and she was the one who suggested that she would give me a call later in the week. I am fine with that. I belive it shows interest on her part- it would have been just as easy for her to make up an excuse that she had to go for whatever reason. Instead she wanted to let me know that she will call.
I think this board has lots of useful info- but that most of it should be used as guidelines and not thought of as rules. I mean there are certian circumstances that arise where we need to change our approach.
Like I said before we get along great and it is totally comfortable- like talking to an old friend.