"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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moldingcheese

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So this girl gives me her phone number, but she says no when I call her and ask her out. She didnt hesitate when she gave me the phone number so I dont think she was forced into it. So I m wondering what getting a number actually means. I always thought that getting the number means she is interested in you. But I have almost never failed in getting a girl's number and I m starting to think that girls will give it to u even if shes not interested. So post ur thoughts guys.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Smooth Player 056

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Yes your last observation is true.

If you dont demonstrate enough value or achieve enough rapport durring your sarge with her, she most likely will flake.

Many times girls just give you their number to stop pestering them and go away. Newbies think that a number = Succes....but that couldnt be more distant from the actual truth.



~Smooth
 

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getting a girls number = not success

BUT

getting her to chill (go out) with you = success

[Except sometimes girls reject cuz they DO have something to do.. so its hard to tell sometimes]
 

moldingcheese

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when they actually have sumthing to do, dont they try to reschedule? or is it still the guys job to call her up again. It would be pretty screwed up if she expected us to call again...
 

bambino

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If your gonna ask a girl for her number or if she gives it to you.. It's best not to call her right away. Call her a few days so she will think you have a life.

Also, you should ask the first date when your face to face... When you can.

AND don't ask a girl out on the internet, chatting, anything where you can't see her reaction. It helps you know if she's really interested in you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Damian

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Don't worry about it. If she doesn't want to go out with you, toss the number. If you were smart, you have a few more numbers in your pocket to run through.

-Damian
 
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