Phone Dilemma

[sherineo]

So let me give you an overview about at what level I'm...

I'm somebody who's very comfortable around women ..talking to them ...flirting with them...seductive talk etc...

But I have got one weakness ...I'm not very confident about talking to women seductively over a phone or doing anything remotely similar to flirting over a telephone...

I just can't relate to somebody's voice without looking at them...

Anybody facing the same trouble ...when after getting the digits you freeze up while fixing a date over the phone...

For this reason getting digits actually never works for me...

Any Insights ..?

 

[Bussey]

I used to have the same problem.... the thing that best help me with the phone was a really easy (and awfully boring) job I got.

Inbound call centre... no selling but people calling in. You get to talk to people, hear their emotion and respond accordingly.

I got the job because I needed to improve my phone communication... pay was ****... but that wasn't my goal.

Kept the job for 2 months and since then I'm very comfortable on the phone.

 

[sherineo]

good suggestion

But I have already tried that...

See the thing is I'm fairly good looking and when I talk to a chick face to face (when I'm in my pimp mode) I just know that she's already attracted to me... after that I dont have to do much but charms work on their own....

And I guess that's something which I cant achieve over a phone call...

I have never done this but what exactly will you say to a chick once you call her after you have got her number....

My experience ...
1. Butterflies in stomuch
2. Since can't see her don't know how to respond to her expression...

I guess just more visual than others....

And often end up making a fool of myself....

 

[sherineo]

but

only over the phone obviously...

 

[Bussey]

Keep the phone conversations short then... Its like anything.. start simply and build from there.

Just time constrict your calls at first... don't use this everytime because it won't help you learn but heres a sample dialogue.

You: Hey its Sherineo how you doing?
Her: Whatever.
You: Hey I can't talk long but what are you doing XXX night?
Her: Whatever.

Make the plans and then cut it off.

You: I gotta fly but sounds good and I'll see you then. Bye.
Her: Bye.


Edit: Don't sound rushed like talking fast lol... just communicate that you need to get to whatever thing that's pulling you off the phone.

 

[sherineo]

Thanks Bussey I'll try that...

sherineo