She's away in VA and she's been missing me and calling me up a lot typically during the night. Somehow tonight our conversation got into the topic of sex.
Now me and her just have gotten out of 2 months of breaking up, getting back together, hooking up with other people, and fights, and I feel that since we've gotten through that our relationship is much stronger. One key thing has been missing in our relationship during those 2 months: SEX.
I was randomly talking about someone wearing this shirt with no bra that made her nipples all funny @ work. And here's snippets of our conversation:
Her: "What if my nipples looked like that?"
Me: "Heh, i don't even remember what your nipples looked like..."
Her: "Ohh... why cuz we haven't done it in a long time."
Me: "Ugh... maybe.. umm.. yeah!"
Her: "Well right now, I don't want to base our relationship around sex, we just got out of a hard time fighting and all this mess and I don't feel comfortable doing it right now. I hope you respect my feelings, my body, and myself and understand how i feell about this. When i feel comfortable.. then yea we can do it a lot."
Me: "[sarcasticly] Well I don't feel comfortable kissing you, maybe we should just be friends."
I told her she's getting the wrong idea about sex. I told her that I feel totally comfortable and I think it will bring excitement back into our relationship and only bring us closer. She just went on and on how she's not ready again for sex.
Besides nexting her... how should this be handled? I've got more of an understanding of why she's withholding sex.
Now me and her just have gotten out of 2 months of breaking up, getting back together, hooking up with other people, and fights, and I feel that since we've gotten through that our relationship is much stronger. One key thing has been missing in our relationship during those 2 months: SEX.
I was randomly talking about someone wearing this shirt with no bra that made her nipples all funny @ work. And here's snippets of our conversation:
Her: "What if my nipples looked like that?"
Me: "Heh, i don't even remember what your nipples looked like..."
Her: "Ohh... why cuz we haven't done it in a long time."
Me: "Ugh... maybe.. umm.. yeah!"
Her: "Well right now, I don't want to base our relationship around sex, we just got out of a hard time fighting and all this mess and I don't feel comfortable doing it right now. I hope you respect my feelings, my body, and myself and understand how i feell about this. When i feel comfortable.. then yea we can do it a lot."
Me: "[sarcasticly] Well I don't feel comfortable kissing you, maybe we should just be friends."
I told her she's getting the wrong idea about sex. I told her that I feel totally comfortable and I think it will bring excitement back into our relationship and only bring us closer. She just went on and on how she's not ready again for sex.
Besides nexting her... how should this be handled? I've got more of an understanding of why she's withholding sex.