phone calls...wtf?!

[golf299]

im just wondering if anyone else has the same problem as me. it's simply this: i am the most confident i can possibly be in person. if i have a girl face to face i have no problem talking to them, kino etc with little or no anxiety. however, i am the biggest wuss on the phone. im nervous as all hell and im scared im gonna f' up... basically all my old afc tendancies return and i think i screw up right there with some girls.

anyone relate??

 

[Julian]

I used to be this way sort of. FOr instance if i had to make an important call i would shut my eyes really tight and make a wierd face. Ive overcome that. Really, theres no reason to be anxious when on the phone.

 

[Supaman]

Originally posted by Julian
I used to be this way sort of. FOr instance if i had to make an important call i would shut my eyes really tight and make a wierd face. Ive overcome that. Really, theres no reason to be anxious when on the phone.

That's possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard...or possibly the funniest.

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by Supaman
That's possibly the stupidest name I've ever heard

Zappa: Hey Joey Joe Joe, come back.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Usually when people do well in a face to face conversation and not so well over the telephone is because there is a limited amout of feedback when you use the telephone.

Face to face there is an abundance of body language, facial expressions and kino that can be used to gage ones effectivness. On the telephone you can only make assumptions by the inflection of the person's voice, not nearly as much feedback.

One suggestion is to follow Doc Love's advice and only use the telephone to set up dates, nothing else. Leave the extended conversations to face to face contact.