phone call protocol question

[humiliator]

I've read the stuff about calling girls in the DJ bootcamp, and most of it made sense. (Don't call the day after getting the number, call in the evening because she's less likely to be out somewhere, etc.)

Anyway, I just saw a missed call from a girl whom I KNOW is interested in me. A few days ago I had talked to her online and suggested that we get together this Friday. She said she might have to work, so I told her to let me know if she'll be free or not.

When should I call her back? I'm thinking I should call her on Wednesday evening. This would give ample time to wait for her to call me a second time, which would let me know she's REALLY into me, and give me a wear the pants more. If she doesn't call me a second time, I shouldn't wait further than Wednesday because if she doesn't have to work, she'll make other plans. Is my instinct correct?

Also, I'm thinking there isn't anything wrong with talking to her via IM ASAP because with an IM, it's like I just happened to see that she's online, wheras a phone call is me actively seeking her.

 

[FlawlessBadBoy]

Call her whenever you want. That's how you wear the pants. Just don't stalk her.

 

[likeaChArM]

protocol screws ya, to each his own just make sure you dont call her and tell her you have nothing else to do or you just woke up...doesnt impress.

 

[Climax]

Call her whenever u want, just dont wait too long.

If she called u to start off with, then thats already a good sign, and a clear sign that she is interested, so at this point, there is no need for further "testing" (to see if she "really" is into you, cause i think u already know that )

Hope it goes well for ya...

Laterz...

 

[squirrels]

The very fact that you're sitting there saying, "Should I call her NOW? SHould I call her THEN? Should I have called?? OMG OMG" is WEAK.

YOU are the one with what SHE needs. YOU call when YOU are ready. Just don't let it go so long that she forgets who you are.

 

[xblitz44x]

The best thing you can do is call when YOU want, and not when a website tells you to. I usually call the day after, or at most 2 days after. There have times where I've lost the number and didn't call for 5 or 6 days. I've found that it has no bearing on the result.

 

[humiliator]

Ok, so I guess I'm at the point where using my own common sense doesn't make me appear desperate .

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by humiliator
Ok, so I guess I'm at the point where using my own common sense doesn't make me appear desperate .

The point is that there is NO "wrong time" to call.

It's being afraid of calling at the "wrong time" that forces the less-suave to blow up a girl's phone 15 minutes after meeting her. They get scared that "maybe they're not calling soon enough...OMG they might LOSE her."

Rememeber that SHE should worry about losing YOU, so you should call when YOU feel like talking to her and SHE should be the one worrying about when to call YOU.

 

[seize_the_pattern]

cant recall which interview with deangelo it was but one guy suggested rolling dice ... worth trying...

 

[xblitz44x]

Originally posted by seize_the_pattern
cant recall which interview with deangelo it was but one guy suggested rolling dice ... worth trying...

Yeah but the point is, like Squirrels said, it's not whether it's the right or wrong time to call, it's the constant worry and concern of determining the right time to call that hurts them. If somebody is so uncomfortable with when to call that he has to roll dice, then the number it lands on is not going to help him.

 

[seize_the_pattern]

shoot