"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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phone call or text msgs after getting number?

phone call or text msgs after getting number?

  • phone call

    Votes: 22 75.9%
  • text msg

    Votes: 7 24.1%

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bingo_

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i would rather text msgs... i feel more comfortable that way. but that's just me.. and i know some girls prefer a guy to call. oh and once... i gave a girl MY number and she texted me two days later and we fked. not one phone call. i mean, if a girl really likes you she's not gonna care if you text her right?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yuriy777

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I don't think it matters too much.
I prefer to call (better way to judge IL in my opinion). I don't do voicemail though...
Go figure.
 

logicallefty

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If you just got the number then I would text.. A text message makes a statement "I want to talk to you but I am busy and you aren't worth 5-10-15 of my time right now to talk on the phone, but you are worth 1 minute of my time for me to send you this text".
 

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Woa Woa what the hell's going on here. The right answer would obviously be to call her. What is this site becoming?

If you just got the number then I would text
If you just got the number.....you wait a couple of days to call.

Asking a girl out through a text msg shows your insecure, your not doing it personally. You call her up and ask her out so you get a reaction.

i gave a girl MY number and she texted me two days later and we fked.
Dosen't make a difference, she's insecure, but you dont care, your a guy. If it was the other way around, trust me. It wouldnt work.

Be a fvcking man and call.
 

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Ive had un measureable success with mailbombs. Field tested and they never forget you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Phyzzle

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If you want to message her, get her e-mail.

If you want to call her, get her number.
 

sexy_kuta

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i would call her..

you can tell by her IL u can also turn her on and increasing her IL by the way u talk

if ur a good talker then phone.. if this is ur first type of thing then u could always text but i wouldnt.. if ur not good at talking.. how will u become good at talking if u wont try?

trial and error my friend!
 

ValleyDJing

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calling shows the girl you're more secure. however, I just got the weirdest thing. a girl gives me her number the other day and is like text me sometime. wtf? I was thinking, "why not just call you?" anybody have any idea wtf this is all about?
 

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Text messaging is the easy way out. The phone call is always the number one way in my book to call back.

I would also agree that if you don't have the balls to call her just get her email next time. Except I don't know how much younger generation emails these days...
 

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If you used a number exchange when you got the number then it shouldn't matter which one you do next becaue she'll know who it is and shouldn't be suprised about whos calling her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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ScrewIt

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call, it's easier to read body language and what the person is really trying to say. if i could rid the world if e-mail, online messengers, txt messages i would.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Vincent said:
Text messaging is the easy way out. The phone call is always the number one way in my book to call back.

I would also agree that if you don't have the balls to call her just get her email next time. Except I don't know how much younger generation emails these days...
I have yet to understand why guys obsess over closing with a number yet aren't capable of using it. It's madness... :crazy:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I have yet to understand why guys obsess over closing with a number yet aren't capable of using it. It's madness... :crazy:
errr how did we ever survive dating without cell phones and text messages and camera phones
and emails (our computers were apples with floppy disks that could not do anything more than the game on the floppy disk)
and pagers

and caller id
and 3 way calling
and *69, 67 and and other * features
and even call waiting.....


oh wait, we got off our butts and talked to them at school and if we couldnt wait any longer, we would walk or ride a bike and meet up with them.
not having these features helped us to learn to deal with everything face to face and interact with people.we could even take the less is more approach sometimes and leave them hanging, which meant it made them want to talk / see you even more because they were interested in things.

i know the 80s and early 90s are a very ancient long ago time, but i cant be the only person that survived them OR am i?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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penkitten said:
errr how did we ever survive dating without cell phones and text messages and camera phones
and emails (our computers were apples with floppy disks that could not do anything more than the game on the floppy disk)
and pagers

and caller id
and 3 way calling
and *69, 67 and and other * features
and even call waiting.....


oh wait, we got off our butts and talked to them at school and if we couldnt wait any longer, we would walk or ride a bike and meet up with them.
not having these features helped us to learn to deal with everything face to face and interact with people.we could even take the less is more approach sometimes and leave them hanging, which meant it made them want to talk / see you even more because they were interested in things.

i know the 80s and early 90s are a very ancient long ago time, but i cant be the only person that survived them OR am i?
The problem is that guys who have only lived in the "Digital Age" have not had the need to use any of the social skills which include conversation and general social interaction. I guess we can call them socially retarded.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rocky_mtn

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Don't fvck around, call and talk, unless you want to be pen pals, or text buddies or something.
 
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Either is good. It just depends on the person.

For example,
I get plenty of girls, but I personally dont text. Mainly because im a pretty funny guy and the phone works better for me. My sarcasim and humor doesnt work well through text usually. BUT...

On the other hand, my best friend, uses text messages mainly. (I have to add that he gets WAYYY more girls than me.) i dont think he has big conversations over texting. im pretty sure he keeps it short and sweet. Another thing that i noticed is that girls for some reason love to text. One night me and him were staying at a hotel and we met these chicks in the lobby. later he was texting back and forth with her and he told her to meet him on the other side of the hotel and they ended up makin out. btw, he does eventually talk over the phone with every girl he meets.

so from what i can tell is that both texting and talkin over the phone are great. it just depends on the person.

peace
 

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I can say from experience that 'texting' after getting a number really screws you up. For one, most guys who are going to text after recieving the number are doing so because they are nervous or scared and well continuing to text only feeds into that deficiency which is wrong...

Two, females would prefer to talk to you in person (most of them) From my experience, had more success with calling than texting first... EVENTHO, I got my current gf's number and texted her first and well we're still together after 8 months... so really goes to show... does it really matter ??


-Cod3r
 

Tomatoes

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In the UK we send 3 billion texts a month. We spend more on texts than calls.

I personally prefer to text.



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