Some thoughts.
A quick side note to any teen here asking any question relating to protective/concerned/b1tchy parents as I've seen so many threads realting to this and I have had this problem in huge doses.
I am one of you. I've got em. 'Who're you going with? Him? No you can't. Call me every hour to make sure you're alright. It better not be a party. Staying the night? I don't think so mister.
****, I think just about every kid in the world has some disagreement with his parents, but for those with over protective ones, its a hell of a lot more often than it should be.
First up, a note about why they do what they do. Have you ever ridden an elephant in the hope that it would give you huge guns? No. Neither have I. But I'm willing to bet that you've had a moment where something happens, and you realise its happened before, and can apply what works to it. I've had more of these as I pass through the years of my life with the most 'freedom', so imagine what this means with your parents ages.
Sure we hear the phrase 'life experience', all to often and just dismiss it as 'ffs its a different generation mum, things are sooo much different, kthxbai'. But, have you ever really considered how long 50 odd years is? Thats a lot of knowledge and judgement right there, and I'm willing to bet that even though it may be a different generation and society's standards have changed dramatically, your parents can still give you a good idea of whats right and wrong.
My parents come from completely different backgrounds, but have the connecting factor that they had strict parents. As such they do they're best to give me better and im damn grateful. However, with the changing society, even they think that the line is crossed when there was the possibility of me being involved in alcohol (Im from the UK, drinking age is 18 still makes no difference to underage drinking).
Because of this protectiveness, and being sheltered strongly from anything that wasn't completely safe, the first time I went to a party (Had to lie and say I was at a sleepover to go there), I got through 2 bottles of vodka and ended up in hospital with cognitive response tests being carried out every hour to make sure I wasn;t brain damamged, and had 8 litres of saline fluid pumped into me (still had a hangover).
Why is this relevant? Because if they had educated me about it, and exposed me to it without making it seem a precious thing that was a reward 'a few drops of wine at christmas,' then I wouldn't have put them through nearly loosing a child as I would have made my own informed decision about it.
Don't think this is all im talking about. I'm using it as an example that without using your own initiative and breaking out of your parents mind games, you will be fvcked up when you get to university/college. Why? Because you've never experienced freedom.
After this escapade, i've been to a few with/without my parents knowing, lied to them etc, and they were all pointless. A few loud mouths, drunk and silly, trying to hit on equally stupid airheads.
This is all very well sitting here and rambling about myself as you say 'What does this have to do with me, my parents wont let me go to a party and this hasn't helped me one bit.'
The fact is though, High School parties suck hard, and will remain this way due to the illegality of it, and the fact that getting fvcked out of your brain will get old as you do.
In essence, unless it's a simple gathering with your mates, where a few cans are out and about, then its going to be a popularity points contest under the influence, just like every other party before Uni/college.
Once there, as my brother tells me, it changes. No more popularity contests, just a good time in clubs and the like. Sure alcohols there and its getting off your face but its YOUR CHOICE AND YOUR RESPONSIBILITY NOT JUST GETTING ****ED TO LOOK COOL.
Why are you're parents being like this? Because they have brought you up through 'X'teen years, and know that at the end of the day, no good comes out of drugs or alcohol as a teen. This is because no one respects them, uses them to stroke thier egos about how fat they are as they can take loads and not pass out, and generally be a silly tit.
Respect your parents decisions, and they will respect you, maybe enough even to listen to why you think parties are a good idea.
For the simple 'your parents make you wear a helmet to walk to school' overprotectiveness, I reccomend you call a child care counseller to come to your house. There is no other way, unless you want to be fvcked up and bitter when you are older. And because of my parents, thats not the way iI want to be headed, regardless of how much of a 'good' guy I can become.
Anyway, i've rambled too long, but the essence of this post is:
HS parties are ****.
Alcohol deserves respect. A few drinks are fine, but think about why you want to get off your face. Its escapism.
Your parents deserve more respect than alcohol. (THINK about this one.)
If your parents are overprotective either call the counseller, or deal with it in your own way. No one here can help you with your little 'parents dont like me shooting up, wtf can i do' ****.
EDIT: Just found an example on the front page of HS forums:
1) 'Can't sneak out due to my moms work schedule because parties usually go on till real late and my mom gets home early. So do you guys think this will hurt my chances??'
Hurt your chances for what. Getting fried? Baked? Spitroasted if your lucky ^_^
Seriously though sneaking out is a silly idea, use your initiative. If you really want to experience this then just go. Leave a note. Thats what I did the second party I went to, after the hospital incident, it just said brb essentially. Didn't get drunk, came home and they were not happy, but seemed more confident in my self control.
2)'mom is very very religious and over protective.'
I hate religion, thats a fact. Can't do anything about that, but as for the over protective bit, ask her WHY. If she feeds you ****, tell her why its **** and probe again. If she gets flustered just go but give her as much respect as possible and inform her when you'll be back SOBER.
its just so ****ing impersonal, never touching that **** again.