"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Petty quarrels

Glenfiddich101

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I've been with my gf for abt 5mths now. And like all other LTR, there are bound to be petty fights and crap.

For me, if i were the one starting the pettiness, i will tell myself to stop it and clear up the mess.

For her, she will say things like I wont waste my time doing this again or inititate something like a break up.

It irritates me becos she uses such words so easily.

For example last night she said she misses me on the phone, i told her the same thing but she didnt hear me. So it lead to her being piss and ending the call.

She later text me saying that if thats the way i respond when she tells me sweet nothings then fine, she wont call me again and wont waste time anymore.

I was like WTF. Its not like i told her to shove it or something. Was just a misunderstanding. So its like some damn cold war now.

Whats the best way to solve such pettiness from women? I've gotten it quite a few times from her and it lead to big quarrels, something i can do without most of the time
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PurpleHaze

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I know exactly wat you mean...im thinkin girls like this are immature. how old is she? LTR are not worth the time at a young age man, too much headache.

but if you wanna try to work it out you have to show her you dont tolerate drama like that and make her respect you enough to not play games like that with you.
 

Glenfiddich101

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Originally posted by PurpleHaze
I know exactly wat you mean...im thinkin girls like this are immature. how old is she? LTR are not worth the time at a young age man, too much headache.

but if you wanna try to work it out you have to show her you dont tolerate drama like that and make her respect you enough to not play games like that with you.
We are both 28. I've told her many times abt her pettiness getting the better of us. She will say she knows and do the same thing the next time round. So its a vicious circle dude
 

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Originally posted by Glenfiddich101
I've been with my gf for abt 5mths now. And like all other LTR, there are bound to be petty fights and crap.

For me, if i were the one starting the pettiness, i will tell myself to stop it and clear up the mess.

For her, she will say things like I wont waste my time doing this again or inititate something like a break up.

It irritates me becos she uses such words so easily.

For example last night she said she misses me on the phone, i told her the same thing but she didnt hear me. So it lead to her being piss and ending the call.

She later text me saying that if thats the way i respond when she tells me sweet nothings then fine, she wont call me again and wont waste time anymore.

I was like WTF. Its not like i told her to shove it or something. Was just a misunderstanding. So its like some damn cold war now.

Whats the best way to solve such pettiness from women? I've gotten it quite a few times from her and it lead to big quarrels, something i can do without most of the time
Remind us again, WHY are you putting up with this sh!t from your woman?
 

DeathDealer

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When a girl is naggy or b1tchy, that is ******** for that you need to improve on one or a couple areas. Women are very poor communicators unlike men, cause if one of you SS morons say something stupid - I'll tell you straight out that you're an idiot and how to fix it - but most girls will just complain the bad stuff you do and never offer any tips on improvement.

Also..
a girl that is naggy/b1tchy in this stage usually means (if she nags every single time you go out) you are falling out of favor for her.. ie her interest level is beginning to drop in which she no longer respects you and will say whatever she wants.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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