Perspectives Please

[Buddha_Mind]

Gentleman,

I have read time and time again that boyfriends don't matter. Why is this? Should I not feel guilt that she might be messng around with me while her BF might be at home saying how much he loves her?

I know we are advised to be careful about work relations, however my situation is temporary and have been using the place to practice and observe.

One girl with a BF asked ME out..not sure if sexual intentions, but there is kino and her eyes have glowed in my direction before. Another girl (she's 34, I'm 25) flirts with me and tells me her BF's weaknesses. Another girl, I swear to god, purposfully brushed her breasts on my forearm (and she's ****ing the bartender).

Are people just so lustful by nature that perhaps monogamy is antiquated? Or has social conditions finally reached a point where thus is simply more openly tolerated (whereas cheating has always occurred, but perhaps was more discrete...ie, there was a day that a woman could kose her life for cheating).

I should probably just disengage from girls with BF's, but it seems that relationships can be quick to break (especially in a person's twenties), and i'm just not sure if this should stop me.

Perspectives would help. Much to learn.

 

[IamMe]

Oh this is an easy one, HIT IT AND QUIT IT BABYYYYYYYYY

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Well, this girl who asked me out is heading out of the state in less than two weeks. Her BF is LTR, so she probably hasn't had a good ****ing in a very long time.

Should I even care?

Seems to me that a girl who wants to stay committed wouldn't be asking dudes to go to a bar with her?

This may be a common-themed thread, so apologies for any replicate postings.

 

[Frank_Tartaglia]

A girl who is willing to cheat on her bf with you will one day cheat on you with somebody else. If you wanna just hit it then go ahead, but don't expect anything out of it.

Typically one should avoid hooking up with another guy's girl. If he's a decent fellow then there's no reason to hurt him, bad karma. If he's an idiot then you have to think what does she see in him and why is she sticking with him. Girls who stick with guys who are losers tend to be either goldiggers or stupid girls who are willing to stick with the first loser who slept with them.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Thanks for the replies.

Frank, I hear you well. Perhaps it's important to remember we can do harm - we can hurt people.

These girls may cheat eventually, but I can make the conscious decision to abstain from the whole damn thing.

But all of their flirting can definitely be a mental distraction.

*Edit* I should also say both a female friend and my own father (married 25 years), have told me, "go for it" -- But I agree if a girl cheats to get with you, she'll probably cheat to get out later on...the old switcheroo.