Perspective on a Friends situation

[Serg897]

Hey all,

I spoke to a good buddy of mine on the phone this evening and he told me of a tough situation with his girlfriend that has been bothering him the past few months - thought I would post it to gain some perspective.

This is essentially what he told me-
It looks like back in February his girlfriend let him know of some potential foul play on her part. This supposedly occurred back in September when she was out of town visiting friends. The story essentially went something like her getting drunk, hooking up with a guy and going back to his place....but according to her nothing else happened (hard to believe).

When she told him my friend was furious, and I don't know many details but he assured me that he gave her a really hard time about it, but ultimately forgave her - just based on the fact that she eventually told him when she didn't have to (5 months after the event supposedly took place).

He told me he was seriously thinking about dumping her but ultimately did not. I just find it interesting, Im not sure what I would have done in this situation - probably exactly what he did, despite heavy reservations.

What do you all think?

 

[morepoonplease]

it will happen to him again and again... she knows she can get away with it now... and trust me its really going to sting when he finds out whats really been going on.

 

[Warrior74]

The question guys never ever ask is this....

Why is she telling him now?"

She has hidden this successfully for months. What is her reason for dropping this relationship destroying bomb at this particular moment in time? Guilt? The guy is coming to visit? Word has gotten out and she's heading it off at the pass? She's ready to dump him and figured this will do the trick? She's ready to marry him and figures this will be the ultimate beta bytch boy test? For ****s and giggles because cause she lost all respect for him lately? Because the voices in her head told her to?

Why reveal this now?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

The question guys never ever ask is this....

Why is she telling him now?

That was the first question that came to mind. How much does he care about this girl? Most women who cheat don't do it "by accident" just once. It's a habitual thing.

 

[Serg897]

yeah, I knew I would get this kind of response.

I just try to picture myself in his situation. He told me that the girl was begging him not to dump him - and they have been together for over a year. If you are invested like that in a woman its really hard to let go when you are otherwise happy, as he claims.

Still, all women are replaceable, right? Ultimately you shouldn't tolerate that kind of disrespect. He just really wants to trust her.

Who knows.

 

[5string]

it will happen to him again and again... she knows she can get away with it now... and trust me its really going to sting when he finds out whats really been going on.

^^^This