"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Personality: the biggest DJ mystery ?

dice

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LET YOUR PERSONALITY SHINE

DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT ANYONE THINKS

SELF EXPRESSION IS A YES INHIBITION IS A NO

BE YOURSELF

IMITATION IS SUICIDE

and etc goes the advice from pook and the other DJ gurus concerning what your mindset should be. I see posts on LOOKS on this forum everyday. It's funny that LOOKS are probably the last thing people should focus on since it is probably the most unmanipulative thing a DJ has to offer. What is the most important thing? PERSONALITY. However, I beg someone to find me a post on what to do about personality. Yes, be confident, be outgoing, be charismatic, smile, crack jokes, all great advice.

Here is my quam and I know I'm not alone in this area because I've made posts like this before and I'm yet to find what I'm looking for. I have the DJ qualities. I am confident and outgoing. You know what it's gotten me. I'm constantly called weird, dork, warped, psychotic. Now, I'm very good looking so people are nice to me and drawn to me no matter how I act, but I've literally had an HB9 tell me she "banged me bc of my looks regardless of how I act." Imagine being told that, tell me how you feel. Like there's a lot of work to be done but you don't know how to do it.

What do you do when you're a dork?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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unmanipulative? That's a harsh word isn't it.

Have you not heard that the advice be yourself is true?

I am myself, I love to imitate people, I think the experts call it acting, but you can call it suicide if you want to.
 

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Basically if you were not outgoing or charismatic enough you would have never met them and if you were not confident enough you'd never make a move. Of course in the end it comes down to how you look. But as long as your in shape, clean and have a ****. It won't matter. Your probally a lot more fun as well.

Don't go around thinking girls have a checklist and check off if you have all the right traits because some weirdo named Pook told you to have them. Just know if you didn't have those traits you'd never be put into a situation to get with girls in the first place.
 

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Look in the recent thread in tips about emotion, emotion and passion is the basis of personality and charisma.

Show your humanity
 

dice

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answer the question
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good looks are important, if you hate what you look like, how in the hell are you going to be confident around woman, if you hate the way that you speak then how are you going to be confident around woman, good looks + a good voice = confidence + confidence = success when it comes to picking up the hottest babes. :yes:
 

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seriously are u guys on drugs.. lol

the question was about personality, not looks, not your voice, not what DJ philosophies will open you up to in your life, these replies aren't relevant to my thread
 
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ok, dice... First of all if I were getting laid because of my looks I wouldn't be worrying about personallity. Anyway...

I think your real problem is you're getting the wrong type of women. When I first came here I finally realized I was dating losers all the time. So I became really picky about who was next in line. I have a few questions for you:

1. What kind of women do you typically date?

2. What kind of women do you like?

3. Are you looking for LTR or quick lay?

ADKdj
 

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1. I typically date anything that looks decent

2. I like girls that are as close to britney spears as possible in looks and personality

3. I'm not going to pass over on a quick lay but if the right girl comes along of course i'd want a LTR, I think pretty much every1 here has the same mentality
 
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ok, seems like you're on the right track you just haven't met the right girl yet. You may want to answer that question by the way. I'm not sure the Spears type of girl has the personality you want. (Although I'd like to have a piece of that :) ) So...

What kind of girl do you want??
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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My suggestion to you would be if you are a "DORK" and a "HB9" desires to "Bonk" you because of your "Good Looks" then you may as well remain a "Dork" if it is leading you to succeed with the hottest babes. :crackup:
 

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What do you want? Standing on top of the pyramid with thousands of naked women screaming your name or living life with "The One"? Let me get this straight you want women to be attracted to something more than your looks? I'm not saying lower your standards but you may be going after the wrong type of lady.
 
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