Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Deadly_Assassin

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Ok I have a slight problem. I get angry or frustrated easily. Especially when I am drunk. I even get angry with chicks that will come and bump into me ( this happens a lot in the clubs ). Lately I have realised that most chicks that are interested in me will bump into me and they make it pretty obvious. But I am driving these chick away when they see me getting angry at them. I mean how would you feel if you went and purposely bumped into a chick to grab her attention ( made it look like an accident of course ) and she turns around looking all angry?

Last night I got angry at my mate and went all quiet just because of a small quarrel. He was the first one to apologize to me as well. I am not sure why sometimes I have these mood swings. Its just not right.

Any advice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Umm...problems with your personal life? I had a friend who was dating this ugly girl who was 4 years younger than him and she always got him to buy her ****. In addition to that his gf who he was cheating on broke up with him (she lives in florida and had a banging body. he didnt have sex with her cause hes a b*tch). When he got drunk you could see the angry lying with in him. His voice had a snap to it whenever he spoke. Now he always talks sh*t about everyone, i take it because hes jealous because he fvcked his life up. Figure out whats going on and do something about it. Just relax dude, have fun.
 

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Well I thought this was also a site for self-improvement. Oak you might have a point. But my life is pretty sweet. I am 22, about to finish my commercial pilot training, been getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex, just no action because I am not taking any. I am a pretty easy going good looking guy, fun to be around person, not afraid of making a fool of myself especially around my mates. I dunno if its because I have some deep insecurities that I come out and haunt me when I am drunk. I am skinny, but I am trying to put on weight, but I still do alright with the ladies.

With my past, you can look at my previous posts a couple of years ago about a asian chick from church which I am trying to get over. It seemed liked a missed opportunity, hence I might be angry at myself for letting things ruin between us.
 

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Also, most of the time when I am drunk, I am the life of the party. Its when someone gets angry with me, or I get disrespected or even if they joke around I get angry and go into silent *****y mode.
 

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Deadly_Assassin said:
Ok I have a slight problem. I get angry or frustrated easily. Especially when I am drunk.
Well the obvious solution is to stop drinking right?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Deadly_Assassin said:
Ok I have a slight problem. I get angry or frustrated easily. Especially when I am drunk. I even get angry with chicks that will come and bump into me ( this happens a lot in the clubs ). Lately I have realised that most chicks that are interested in me will bump into me and they make it pretty obvious. But I am driving these chick away when they see me getting angry at them. I mean how would you feel if you went and purposely bumped into a chick to grab her attention ( made it look like an accident of course ) and she turns around looking all angry?

Last night I got angry at my mate and went all quiet just because of a small quarrel. He was the first one to apologize to me as well. I am not sure why sometimes I have these mood swings. Its just not right.

Any advice?
Look your THREAD has NOTHING to do with women,its not a personality disorder its you have anger issues or when your drunk it makes you act like this.If you want answers go to another forum google search personality disorders forums,im pretty sure they will answer your questions.
 

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hey henrydream were here to help people hey deadly how old are you sometimes that plays a factor also stop getting drunk relax and think positive btw you don't have a personality disorder you just get mad easily
 

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your right, this should probably be on the health and fitness section. Sorry.
I am 22 btw. What I am trying to say is that I seem have mood swings. When I drink it gets worse because I end up swinging to the other side of the spectrum. So drinking only amplifies it but is not the source of the problem. I remember reading someone else's post about them having the same problem. I can't seem to find that post.

I was hoping someone that has gotten over this kinda problem would help me out because sooner or later this is gonna hurt my game big time. Thats why I am asking is this like a personality disorder thing? I have lost mates because of this.

I have googled it and most of the sites mostly talked about my diet and excercise or even lack of sleep affecting the hormone balance. Others even talked about being too emotional and its just the way I am! I might give the doc a visit...
 

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Deadly_Assassin said:
Its when someone gets angry with me, or I get disrespected ... I get angry and go into silent *****y mode.
It's understandable you don't like being disrespected. But you have to to choose how you want to deal with it. Your current response bothers you, so that's the first step. If you get angry you let them ruin your time (and some people will deliberately set out to do that). Don't go silent and bottle things up inside, it just makes you even more angry. Try to deal with the situation right there and once that's done forget about it and continue having a good time.

Drinking isn't the cause, it just reduces your inhibition to control yourself and your underlying anger.

You can go and see a doctor like you said, and I think these days they can prescribe some pills for just about anything. But this is something you can work on yourself, to have self control. This is also very important with chicks because they will try to pull your strings and get an emotional reaction. Work on remaining cool in all situations (that doesn't mean don't respond to disrespect but do it in a considered manner).
 

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Hey Deadly_Assassin, been awhile since I seen ya.

I heard when you get drunk it's easy to get mood swings. I saw this 1 police show where this old lady got drunk and she was having fast mood swings. It was pretty funny.

My advice for ya bro is not to get drunk. If you are getting mad because some bumped into you then you shouldn't drink man. Because what happens if a dude bumps into you and you act that way. Your gonna get in a fight.


I see that you are getting pissed at people who disrepescted. I used to do that too dude. Maybe you should think of it as someone opionon bro and let it go. Why get all stressed about what some idoit said ?
Plus stress isn't good for your body. End up with cancer or something.

I been in your shoes before bro where I used to get mad at people said and if you wanna talk about it man feel free to pm me. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thanx for the replies guys. You all have made a point with the getting drunk part. Next time I go out, I will only have one beer ( Corona ) and then just sip on the coke for the rest of the night.

I am definetly gonna work on my eating habbits and sleep patterns. And gotta work on self-control, thinking before speaking and less wanking:D
 
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