"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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persistence against disinterest

KneghtRyder

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do you think if a girl was interested in the past,

but is not currently interested...


if you persist in trying to get her ..


that she will eventually cave in, .. will persistence work like "Harry Truman's way"

or will it just be a waist of time ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The only way I can see it happening is if you run into her 5 years later when all the other guys your age are married and have beer guts and you're still a handsome successful guy. And then, she'll probably be tubby too, so you wouldn't even want to mess with it. Maybe I'm just a pessimist, but it seems like that's the way it works generally.
 

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Seeing you with another girl is about the only way I know to change the disinterested to interested. If she shows no jealousy or emotion about it, then you had no chance anyway.
 

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MooseGod said:
The only way I can see it happening is if you run into her 5 years later when all the other guys your age are married and have beer guts and you're still a handsome successful guy. And then, she'll probably be tubby too, so you wouldn't even want to mess with it. Maybe I'm just a pessimist, but it seems like that's the way it works generally.
Hell yeah it does. I wish I knew that when I was 21.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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all i can say is that, if you truly like this girl, then you should give it your best. you never know. sometimes people dont like you right away, and the more time you spend with them, the more they will realize the person you are. let me give you a real life example. my sister in law didnt like my brother at first when they first met, she wasnt her type, but he was so persistent, that now they're married with a kid. so it can happen, go for it!
 

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You CAN force interest level. It's called making yourself worth it. If you weren't good enough for her at one time, there is no reason a year or two later you can't be.
 

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guys, she was interested about 1-2 months ago..

it wasn't like years ago

thanks.

"It's called making yourself worth it"

how?
 
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