"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Persistant Planning

Yookiwooki

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I've had the feeling that I'm not in control how I spend my time.

I procrastinated until the last minute on tasks. I'd never really finish tasks with quality, and I always felt so guilty about procrastinating that I wouldn't enjoy the time I spent to put off getting to it.

Putting off the things that I needed to finish has crippled my confidence. How can you be confident if you have no control of your actions? This lack of confidence has destroyed my game, and my life.

Frustrated, I wrote down what I wanted to accomplish for the coming week, and composed a schedule that outlined when I could finish these tasks. Each day that week, I wrote what I had planned, when I planned to do it, and when I actually did it. I also wrote a brief journal entry.

It was the first time that I wrote down my goals and thought about how I could reach them.

This helped me to finish tasks without cramming it all in at the last minute. When I wanted to change something, I changed it on the schedule and wrote my rationale for the change.

Although I became lazy by the end of the week with my schedule, I felt that I should continue. This week, I've been able to stick with the schedule and I'm feeling like I'm finally in control.

It may have been obvious, but I found that writing down how I wanted to spend my time has helped me to make the most of it. I can set goals and actually trust myself to accomplish them.

That's confidence.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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