"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Perhaps pvssy can be a good motivator after all

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A lot of guys on this site think it's unhealthy to want sex. Yes, it's true this can lead to a list of addictions (porn, etc). However, it can also be a benefit to you.

In late December, I realized I was tired of not having enough options (or plates, whatever you want to call it). So I decided to go to the gym and work out more consistently. Since then, I've been going regularly and feeling overall more confident. I'm finally getting in shape, and even some chicks in the gym have been checking me out ;)

So, I turned it into a positive by having something to go for. If I didn't care about women, I'd be snacking on chips and salsa in front of the TV. But because it's important to me, I've been forcing myself to eat healthier and workout. Worst case scenario, I'm not getting laid more but I'm more fit. Seems like a good situation to me.

You see, there can be positive externalities from wanting puss. You just need to know how to make it work for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SmooveMooves

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Good sh1t brah. But I don't think its so much as wanting pvssy is what people are against, its needing or craving it.

Its when men be begin blood sacrificing their self-respect and pride for the moist slit.

Its signing a contract with the devil and selling all your stocks for the poon.

Its when a man turns on his childhood friend just for a lil Vag.

We all want Vagina, that's why were here. Smart using that to your advantage.

Although we hate to admit, alot of what we do is indeed done to attract a mate.

If this world were a sausage fest, nothing but men, where woman didnt exist, I doubt that many people would work out "just for themselves" unless they were gay.

But since they DO exist, and at abundance. Theres no need to pedastalize or crave be cause' of said abundance.
 

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skinnyguy said:
A lot of guys on this site think it's unhealthy to want sex.
are you sure you posted on the right website? :D if not, tell me some examples, of guys here who say sex is unhealthy.

also, there will be a HUGE difference between you, who does it for the poon, and that who does it for himself / because he loves doing it. because you will not get more taco on your wiener by going to the gym. for me it helped, but it helped more that i changed my game.

when you'll see that the women will still pick the same guys they do now, and not you, your motivation will plummet and you will be depressed.
because when you use women as your motivation, you are very outcome dependent (even if you deny it). also, you want to "muscle up for them", which means heavy pedestalization, if you think you NEED to reach certain level to be worthy of them. it is also very beta. at my gym the girls don't give a flying fck about how ripped you are. they don't even socialize at the gym, except with the trainers.

i see some guys gawking desperately at them, trying to take pics of them covertly with their phones, thinking that noone is seeing them, and it is lame :) and i see the guys who love what they do, and don't care about the girls there. when we go out, it is them who will get the females, and not the orbiters.
also, my successes almost never were because of my working out, but my attitude. when i am a funny arsehole peppered with a little gentleman sauce, they come like flies to poop.

based on your older posts, i am not surprised however by your decision, since you seem a person who depends of the validation of others, and doesn't feel bad about leeching off some scraps from the sharks. i say work on this one (continue going to the gym also). try not to give a fck about anyone but yourself and your personal success.

NEVER be a scavenger. be the predator. predator's don't care about pray. they eat them.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I distinctly remember feeling jealous about the guys who look like sh!t dating women hotter than the women I date based only on game when I was busting my a$$ in the gym.
Just out of curiousity, when you say these guys got by on game alone, what do you mean they were doing? Is it that they were using PUA type techniques, or is that they were just maybe naturally more fun and outgoing? In other words, a personality thing?

Lifting weights for women isn't the best reason to be doing it, but at least you still get the benefit of exercise that you otherwise might not be getting. I could see someone getting into the gym motivated by women, and then finding themselves addicted to lifting in its own right. There's something addictive about lifting weights.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Man that was some horrible advice, probably some of worse advice I've heard in awhile.....

For me, I am on this site as part of the self improvement process.
Everything I do, I do for ME

I work out because I want to be healthy and feel good.
I got an education because I wanted a better career and to make better money for myself. Everything you do should be a process of bettering yourself and becoming happy with yourself.

Once you are happy with yourself, healthy, and financially stable then woman will flock to you guaranteed. Sure I can go to the gym and get huge but that doesn't mean I will get any better with woman and that might make me even more unhappy since I will assume because I am huge now woman should love me.
 

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CaptainSaveAh0 said:
Sure I can go to the gym and get huge but that doesn't mean I will get any better with woman
I think anything positive you do for yourself will help you become better with women. As for the gym, you will not only look better but because you feel better you will, if anything, have more confidence and then game better.

I'm also hesitant to believe a man when he says every improvement he makes is 100% for himself... I'm not afraid at all to admit that if it were not for women, or even just the existence of other people in my life in general, I would not look as good as I do.
 

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Yewki said:
I think anything positive you do for yourself will help you become better with women. As for the gym, you will not only look better but because you feel better you will, if anything, have more confidence and then game better.

I'm also hesitant to believe a man when he says every improvement he makes is 100% for himself... I'm not afraid at all to admit that if it were not for women, or even just the existence of other people in my life in general, I would not look as good as I do.
Not saying it doesn't help with woman. I'm sure it will but I'm just saying it shouldn't be your motive. Personally to impress woman isn't why i go to the gym. I play sports and I constantly want to get better and I am injured right now so my goal is to get healthy and boost my performance. The fact that it helps with woman is a bonus for me.

It might boost your confidence but I don't think it will help your game at all. Especially if you are a guy that has NO game and just started going to the gym to help your game. You will look more attractive but that can only take you so far. I know many big guys that will get looks from woman but when it comes to having a conversation, they cannot converse if their lives depended on it.

Being happy with yourself IMO is the best way to have good game. And to become happy with yourself you have to start doing stuff for yourself and not for other people.
 

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Snatch and money are the biggest motivators on this planet. Whoever says otherwise gave up on both.
 

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VladPatton said:
Snatch and money are the biggest motivators on this planet. Whoever says otherwise gave up on both.
Exactly. Civilization was built upon this desire.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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